I have to bring my husband and my children. Age 12 and 14 to my surgery. I feel sad that they have to see this all. Feel embarrassed and weak that I am having this done. I feel like they are going to think there's a cure for being severely overweight and eating awful and being lazy. How do you cope with this? I want my kids to be healthy. Not just see a way out once it happens. They are both chubby. Specially my daughter :-(((((

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Model appropriate behavior. Let them see how hard mom works at being healthy. They won't think this is easy--no one who understands what we go through can.

Make balanced lunches for everyone. Eat together as a family. Teach them that there are sometimes foods and anytime foods, but make sure your healthy foods are tasty. Make them spaghetti, but use turkey meatballs and legume Pasta. Make them chicken wings, but bake them and buy skinless. Make them pb&j sandwiches with whole grain bread, PB2, and sugar- free jelly.

Exercise together. My kids and I do Tae Kwon Do together. There are several families at the gym who do the same, and they are not all slim by any means. Find something you can all do: martial arts, swimming, skating. But stick to it.

Your kids won't think worse of you. But you do need to teach them how not to end up like us.

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Awe. What a positive way of looking at this. Thank you

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Feeling like a failure for letting myself get here.

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I have to bring my husband and my children. Age 12 and 14 to my surgery. I feel sad that they have to see this all. Feel embarrassed and weak that I am having this done. I feel like they are going to think there's a cure for being severely overweight and eating awful and being lazy. How do you cope with this? I want my kids to be healthy. Not just see a way out once it happens. They are both chubby. Specially my daughter :-(((((


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You have no reason to be embarrassed. We are doing this for our children. I keep telling myself that I have to succeed. I can't fail because of my daughter. She is the main reason I'm having bypass. She deserves a mother that can actively participate in her life and not sit on the sidelines. I want to teach her a healthy lifestyle. This surgery is the only way I can do that. Your children will be so proud and happy for the new you.