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I always love when I see posts from friends and family just wanting to support their sleevers. Good for you!

In the early days post-op, expect for your friend to be in some serious discomfort, if not outright pain. And expect some grumpiness and mood swings. Try to be supportive, but not put any pressure on her to recover too quickly. Definitely do NOT eat any real foods around her. And don't bring her any foods that she isn't allowed for her current food stage. If you can, ask her to give you a copy of her post-op nutrition plan so you can familiarize yourself with what foods she will be allowed to eat when.

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I had my sleeve done just 4 days ago. I honestly had no discomfort post procedure. Full liquid diet for the first two week. Just keep encouraging her. Let her do a weigh in about 3 days Post-operatively... S he will be motivated by the weight loss. At my 3 day weigh in I lost another 6lbs. Don't let other people dampen her spirit with stupid remarks regarding why she did it etc. You just be her support system.

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O... The only discomfort post surgery is swallowing because the stomach will be sore and swollen from the surgery. Also if she swallows too quickly she will have discomfort.

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Thank you, I will keep that all in mind. How much discomfort will she be in?

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It definitely varies from person to person. Almost everyone experiences gas pain. They pump gas into your abdomen to make more room to maneuver the instruments. That gas gets "trapped" inside the patient and takes a while to work its way out. Which usually manifests as pain in the shoulder or back. Some people have nausea and even vomiting. I personally had esophageal spasms every time I swallowed for the first couple of weeks until the internal swelling went down. There's also sometimes soreness around the incision sites and sore ab muscles (like you did 100 sit-ups) in the early days.

Oh, another thing I forgot to mention is that she will be really tired. Let her nap and rest as needed, but do encourage her to get up and walk around frequently. Just short little walks, nothing fast or long. Walking can help prevent blood clots and it also helps a lot with the gas pain.

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Let her sleep!!! In any way you can help with her household chores or cooking for family or doing errands. I am wiped out exhausted and have significant pain from stomach to back. Maybe a back rub?.....I don't know how touchy feely you two are but my husband has helped me tremendously by gently massaging my back while I wait for pain meds to kick in. Oh, also, unless she is trying to eat a burger post op or go skydiving, dont pretend to be her doctor and micromanage what she does. Be helpful, not condescending.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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