Tell me it's worth it

[austrolatrishy 2]

Hi everyone,

I had lapband surgery in 2009, and then it was removed in 2012. I had a huge issue with my gallbladder, which caused pancreatitis. I was in the hospital for a week, and also had been having complications with my band. The doctor at the time recommended that we take my band out, and do a revision. I feel like such a baby, I didn't feel like I was ready for a revision. I wish now I had done it.

Fast forward to 2017, and I have gained all the weight back I lost with my band. I turn 41 this month and have mild hypertension. I can't seem to get the weight off, I will do really well for a bit, and then gain it all back again. I remember when I had my band, I went through a depression, because I had made food such an important part of my life. It was a friend whose relationship with me was changed drastically. I suppose that's what I fear, feeling down and depressed. Or having complications with the surgery. I've heard such horror stories. Gah!

Tell me it's worth it. I'm 5'5" and weigh 302 pounds. I have four babies, I want to live to watch them grow up. My fear is holding me back a little bit. Part of me is determined to do whatever it takes. I just need to convince the other part.

[JoshlynW 2]

Don't let YOU stand in the way, your biggest why is that you have four babies than need you! I haven't had the surgery, but after years of trying to get the weight off with no avail, I made the decision a couple months ago to do whatever it takes to life longer for my son. It took so long to get him, I'd do anything to be with him as long as I can. You're stronger than your negative thoughts! I'm certainly rooting for you ????

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[austrolatrishy 2]

Thank you! I appreciate the support! I hate that I get in the way of what I know needs to be done. Good luck to you too!

[WLSResources/ClothingExch 3,444]

@@austrolatrishy wrote "Tell me it's worth it. I'm 5'5" and weigh 302 pounds. I have four babies, I want to live to watch them grow up. My fear is holding me back a little bit. Part of me is determined to do whatever it takes. I just need to convince the other part."

Uh-uh, no. It's up to you to determine whether it's worth it. I'll give you two pointers:

1. The answer is immediately above; and;

2. Get rid of the fractions. Commit either way. Which will it be?

It sounds to me as though you're not so much concerned with possible problems after surgery, but of making a commitment. Don't over think it.

Edited January 2, 2017 by WLSResources/ClothingExch

[JoshlynW 2]

Thank you! I appreciate the support! I hate that I get in the way of what I know needs to be done. Good luck to you too!

Thank you!!

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[MFM008 44]

I am 58 when I had this surgery 10 weeks ago. I've had nothing but complications sentence including an ulcer but I believe I'm finally coming out of the woods the ulcer treatment might be working which means I can expand what I can eat not how much but what. I weighed my highest .373 pounds I now weigh 290. I've had both my knees replaced I have arthritis everywhere you want to do this now you don't want to wait and suffer like I did you want to be able to enjoy doing things with your kids.

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[austrolatrishy 2]

@@WLSResources/ClothingExch you are so right. I overthink everything! Thank you for the words of advice.

[Theotherkels 14]

Our journeys are similar, just different timelines....I got my band in 2006, I still have it but it's coming out in the near future.

I've gained back everything I lost due to a combination of hypothyroidism and pregnancy and most importantly not following the rules like I should. It's hard for me to admit that...but I hadn't truly dealt with my emotional eating issues and that was a problem.

I developed reflux this last year and that started the ball rolling towards revision..and I've realized that I'm not the person I was 10 years ago. The stakes are higher.... I have a little boy who needs me, taking care of him means I need to take care of me and that is the most important thing. It's made all the difference in my commitment to my goal of being healthier...this time I'm making sure all the supports are in place (therapy, support groups, the works).

Try to not focus on the horror stories...they'll just freak you out(I totally looked at them when I was first making my decision to revise and realized they weren't doing me ANY good at all because I'm a worrywart)

Good luck with your decision

[bluey 25]

Im at the same point as you - only that my surgery is this week!!!

Worried and trying to convince myself that this is the right thing to do...

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