Sorry this is not really totally weight loss related but I have no real other outlet for this. Tomorrow is my wedding anniversary, or rather what should be my anniversary. It is a day I should be celebrating with my husband. But that joy and celebration was stolen from me by the person who promised he would never leave. Five months ago on what I thought was a normal Friday I went to work and my husband was taking our two younger kids to spend the day with their older sister. Well after he acted like everything was perfectly normal he came home from dropping off the kids and packed up everything of his from the house, he took half of the little bit of money we had and I got a text that said I'm sorry this isn't working for me anymore, I'm moving out. We had not been fighting, things had been fine or so I thought.

I try really hard to keep a happy face on for the kids but I am still grieving the loss of my marriage so much. When I first had surgery he was very supportive but it seemed as I got smaller he became more and more withdrawn. Things really felt like they shifted when I became smaller then him. He is a husky guy but has never been obese though. Thankfully I have never been really an emotional eater so through all of this I have still continued to lose weight and keep up with my goals but it is so hard.

I guess I don't really have a major point to this thread. I'm not really looking for sympathy or anything, just needed somewhere to vent for a minute. I don't have any real outlet.

That's a pretty crappy deal, vent away, wish you all the best going forward.

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Reree, tomorrow I'll drink a toast, not to your anniversary, but to you and the fact that, despite the grief, you've had the strength to keep it together. It's unfair that your husband gave you no info beyond the vague "not working any more." That you've been as strong as you have for yourself and the kids says something exceptional about you.

It takes a lot to share something like this. My heart aches for you hon. May comfort and peace just envelop every part of your being right now.

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Thank you all for the kind words. I do appreciate so much the support that comes from this group of people on this site.

You should be extremely proud of yourself for your success with your weight loss. Such an emotional blow would have caused many to go off track, but you've made wonderful progress. I'm sorry for all the grief you've gone through.

I am sorry this happened.

Congratulations on your amazing weight loss and the more beautiful, healthier you.

Now that is something worth celebrating!

It's OK this is a support. I wish you the best just stay focused on yourself and your kids???? What he did was wrong!

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I am really sorry to see you have to go through this. It is hard enough on you, but it has got to be even harder for the children, regardless of their ages. Seeing people going through things like this is always discouraging for me. I want to jump in and help them get things back to where they need to be, but so many times it doesn't work out.

I hope you continue to do well with your weight loss. You have done a great job so far. And I hope the new year brings more positive things into your life than negative.

Wow. That is a crushing blow, and I'm so sorry your gutless husband bailed in such a weenie way. I think no explanation is terrible -- so hard to move forward when you have no idea what is going on. I had a boyfriend ghost me after a year of dating, and that was devastating enough. I can't imagine a husband after years of marriage doing it, but I know it happens.

I'm very sorry for your loss of a marital partner, but I'm very proud of your weight lost -- over 170 lbs on your own, and dead weight from your spineless ex.

Thank you all very much.

Shame on him for being a coward! What an awful way to treat you and an terrible thing to do to your children. Not giving you any explanation, he must not have a good one. You're doing great despite everything you're going through keep it up! Just remember you matter & so do your children and don't let this or his actions make you think anything different. You've done nothing wrong so don't stop taking care of yourself and your children and things will only get better. I know this saying isn't always a comfort but I do believe it's true "Things happen for a reason". Wishing you continued success with your WLS and a Happy Holiday to you and your children and most of all a better 2017. Take care of your precious angels they need you more now and they will keep your heart going and glowing! You're worth it so reach for the stars and remember we're always here for you too!

Men suck.

Men suck.

No, some people suck!! There are still good people out there and good men too!!

I'm really proud of you for sticking to your plan during an emotional time like this. I will say if you look good and you are over 40, you pretty much have your pick of men. I'm a super model around these parts. Lol

Edited December 22, 20169 yr by OutsideMatchInside

*hugs*