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Miscarriage, depression, and food

Katy2051

By Katy2051, in Pregnancy with Weight Loss Surgery

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Katy2051    21

Katy2051
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Just under two weeks ago I went into early labor. My baby was alive for a few minutes, but he wasn't far enough along or developed to save. I was only a few days shy of being 21 weeks with my first baby.

To preface this, I had the gastric sleeve surgery so I would be able to get pregnant. So when we found out I was expecting, my husband, me and my family were ecstatic. We were so excited. My pregnancy was completely normal. I was eating healthy, taking my Vitamins, going to my appointments.... even the doctor didn't see this coming. I never would have thought I would become one of those women.

Then, we went through this tragedy. My husband and family are doing amazing at taking care of me and trying to take my mind off of it. But I don't even have the energy to care about my health. My eating has gone to s**t, much less my exercise.

I guess what I am getting at, does anyone have suggestions or help on how to refocus. To care about my health and body instead of being betrayed by it...

I'm sorry for the sad and not so much WLS related post.

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kimiko80    2

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So sorry to hear your sad news. Sending love and hugs your way.

I can't possibly begin to know how you are feeling

I haven't had my surgery yet but I guess the only advice I can offer would be that you started this journey to have a baby, you know now that due to weight loss your body is up to it and next time they will watch you even closer.

I guess the Drs aren't worried that the sleeve has been a problem or they would have said

You need to give yourself time to grieve for your loss. Don't beat yourself up.

Try and stay strong and not loose faith.

Love and hugs xxxx

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RNMomof4    86

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Pregnancy loss is devastating and there is no real way to get over it other than time. So my advice would be just to give yourself some time to grieve and then get yourself ready to start trying again. Eating right and exercise included. You still want to be in top shape for the rainbow baby to come. Hugs to you.

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happyaslarry    42

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Oh sweetheart, love sent to you. You know what? Your already refocusing. Your brave enough to discuss what happened so for me your taking steps.

Draw from all possitive ppl and find strength in them. I dont know you but Im proud of you for reaching out.

Please dont hesitate to seek help. Wish you all the best xx

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Katy2051    21

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Thank you for your responses. Found out it was due to an incompetent cervix. I know I still hurt from losing my baby, but now I feel better for knowing. And I have to make sure my health is in good shape to move on and prepare myself for everything I have to do to carry a baby to full term. Again, thank you for all the support.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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