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<p>I am so glad I am not the only one on here obsessed with food, chewing and spitting it out is gross and FUNNY. Glad to hear there are others that had to do it too. I cant wait to eat meat and veggies again. Even salad would be nice. I am having a hard time just eating 1/2 cup at a time. It seems so small. Drinking is even harder, I cant get my liquids in, anyone else with this problem??</p>

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<p>I am so glad I am not the only one on here obsessed with food, chewing and spitting it out is gross and FUNNY. Glad to hear there are others that had to do it too. I cant wait to eat meat and veggies again. Even salad would be nice. I am having a hard time just eating 1/2 cup at a time. It seems so small. Drinking is even harder, I cant get my liquids in, anyone else with this problem??</p>

yes, I am having trouble getting as much liquids as I should. In fact, I have been battling a bladder infection for 2 weeks and am on my secnd round of antibotics. I know it is because I am not drinking enough Water.< /p>

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Amen Wendell! I don't think we women can really grasp the depth of the male insecurity in that area. We get with some guy and our attitude is "through thick or thin" because we are basically monogomous by nature (most of us, that is). We don't really have a concept of "getting thin and going after a new hot guy"...unless our relationship in the first place was based on "settling" for someone because we didn't think we could get anything else.

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yes i amen to wendell too. Gotta keep telling our husbands we are doing this for ourself not to leave him. Gotta try to drink more today!

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I am dating a guy who likes chubby girls. He got really upset when I told him I got the lapband a month ago (before I met him). Then he asked if there was any way I could take it out. Its really funny that my whole life I have dated guys who liked me in spite of me being overweight. Now I find a guy who likes me cuz I am overweight and I am losing weight! I told him I will still be overweight for at least a year so he can relax! He still tries to get me to eat fattening food/milkshakes.

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hey, how is everyone doing? I had my first very very strange dream last night. Other than wanting to eat too much, I am doing great. I am starting to feel like I WASNT banded now.

Keep on losing !

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WOW, now that you put it like that, i do understand. Especially since all he talks about is cars :)

We are doing a lot better. Since I went on solids he is actually monitoring what I eat and being more supportive.

Some hubbys freak out when their wives decide to get a Lap-Band.

See, guys think of stuff like this:

Their wife has a body that is like a car, and if she is going to turn that "Car" into a "Hot-Rod" then she MUST want to go "Racing". (Presumably with ANOTHER "Driver")

So guys freak out. They think that their wives are dissatisfied with their marriages and that they are planning on losing weight to attract another man.

I know that in most cases this is not the truth.

But a WHOLE LOT of men don't know that!

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Wendall i tried to look at your pics and it said your acc. had been canceled. I always love your advice so i wanted to see what you look like. I agree with your advice on this one too. Donna

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Wendall i tried to look at your pics and it said your acc. had been canceled. I always love your advice so i wanted to see what you look like. I agree with your advice on this one too. Donna

Well that's weird!

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WOW, now that you put it like that, i do understand. Especially since all he talks about is cars ;)

We are doing a lot better. Since I went on solids he is actually monitoring what I eat and being more supportive.

Some hubbys freak out when their wives decide to get a Lap-Band.

See, guys think of stuff like this:

Their wife has a body that is like a car, and if she is going to turn that "Car" into a "Hot-Rod" then she MUST want to go "Racing". (Presumably with ANOTHER "Driver")

So guys freak out. They think that their wives are dissatisfied with their marriages and that they are planning on losing weight to attract another man.

I know that in most cases this is not the truth.

But a WHOLE LOT of men don't know that!

Men are far more insecure in relationships than women realize.

If the man feels that the woman is losing weight in order to attract another man, they will become very anxious.

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I am dating a guy who likes chubby girls. He got really upset when I told him I got the lapband a month ago (before I met him). Then he asked if there was any way I could take it out. Its really funny that my whole life I have dated guys who liked me in spite of me being overweight. Now I find a guy who likes me cuz I am overweight and I am losing weight! I told him I will still be overweight for at least a year so he can relax! He still tries to get me to eat fattening food/milkshakes.

Real men prefer curvy women!

(At least *I* do!)

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Wendall, I always appreciate your posts. My DH was feeling a little insecure but I keep telling him I love him and he is the only man for me. He is trying to be so supportive. He told me the other day that one of his friends noticed my weight loss and was staring at me. He is proud of my work to accomplish this goal but he admits to being a little frightened of what the change may bring to our relationship. He also likes my curves. Once again, I assured him, I will always be curvy.

Women are usually seen as the ones needing reassurance but remember, many times, men are just big, little boys who need to know they are loved and needed.

Keeping talking to your SO and keep finding ways to let him/her know that your weight loss is for you and not for finding a replacement for them.

Good luck! ;)

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