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So I am a week out of surgery! 11/17 and everyone is over my house HUGE thanksgiving dinner! And I hate that I can't eat anything and I'm in my room because I can't stand watching people stuff their face and I can't! Ughhh I regret it soooooo much!!!!! I feel my self gettin depressed! My house isn't supportive because they will eat take out every night and bring it home and I'm here like okay my Water it is! Ugh annoying!!!

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I got sleeved the 9th and felt the same way too! Like I made the biggest mistake of my life.. but it actually gets better and better.. after two weeks I now am prepared for a new life and refocused. The feeling of why I did this in the first place gets stronger and stronger everyday.. stay strong and you will do great.

P.S. We have next Thanksgiving to look forward too!

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I just made the entire meal for 15 people and didn't get to eat any of it. So what. I would rather have a lifetime of good health, than 1 meal of overindulgence.

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I feel ya. My RNY was 11/14 still on full liquids so I couldn't eat any either. They claim to be supported yet it doesn't help when they say well mashed potatoes and gravy are soft, how bout some sweet potatoes their soft I'm like just stop please....so I went and sat in the living room. I made the huge mistake of watching my husband make spaghetti lastnight and I was dumb and took two scoops and blended it in the blender. I ate it and it went all fine but today I've had a stomach ache so I don't know if it was the ingredients or I just don't feel good. But if you need to talk message me anytime

HTwist~255~RNY 11/14/2016

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Armygalbonnie I'm glad u posted because my 19 year old daughter was sleeved on the 14th and I made a small dinner without her favorites but enough for my 27 year old autistic son and me (who will get vsg on December 15th). Even though I made her pureed cream of mushroom Soup and muscle milk with Almond milk and apple sauce she says the same thing! It lessens my guilt of having a final food funeral lol hang in there Xnattio you are about to be even more gorgeous you got this!!! It's crazy that food is our (well mines anyway) drug yet we need it to live!

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I feel the same way. I was sleeved last Wed 11/16 and all this week on tv, internet everything was about food and Thanksgiving dinner. I helped my husband make dinner for our family today and it smelled great. I thought I was going to stay out of the dining room, but I didn't. I had my roasted red pepper and Tomato low sodium Soup with everyone, and it actually went well. Now, the day is almost over and I made it! Wish I could do some black Friday shopping, but I am too exhausted and that is okay!!

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Two things...1) must break the association of holidays/celebrations with food; focus on your blessings, and the quality of how and with whom you spend that time. 2) Others are free to eat as they wish, that's their perogative, and something you will have to reconcile with if you want to be successful long term. Back when we could still "choose" to stuff ourselves, I don't recall feeling I shouldn't because someone around me may be trying to lose weight.

Lastly, after going through a surgery we should never, ever stuff outselves again, but, by the holidays next year, it will be so much less of a big deal than when you are so fresh post op. So focus on your health, on giving thanks for all that you are gaining in giving the huge feast up, and we can't control what others do, nor should we try, only worry about how we are treating OUR bodies.

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So I am a week out of surgery! 11/17 and everyone is over my house HUGE thanksgiving dinner! And I hate that I can't eat anything and I'm in my room because I can't stand watching people stuff their face and I can't! Ughhh I regret it soooooo much!!!!! I feel my self gettin depressed! My house isn't supportive because they will eat take out every night and bring it home and I'm here like okay my Water it is! Ugh annoying!!!

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Your not the only one in that boat today i my self was in my room too for the same reason it was very hard to deal with. My surgery was 11/16 I just keep telling my self it will get better keep ur head up.

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The holidays have always been hard for me, went through a divorce about 10 years ago during the holidays. Since then they've been pretty depressing. Can't help but bring up old memories. Now I am a supervisor in a 911 center and usually get stuck working holidays. So while my friends and family are celebrating and being thankful I get to deal with all of the domestics, suicides, car crashes, you name it I'll be dealing with it. Now add on top of that it's my first year with my sleeve and not able to join in the food. Depressing time... I guess I'll just take my meds and get back to work :(

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

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