Meeting someone new before surgery

[Siyaa Ela 59]

Hi everybody

So there is alot happening in my life right now.

I am seeing someone now. I know him for 3 years but the spark just came between us.

So we are kinda sorta dating. And he has no clue what Im about to go through.

I didn't tell him about my plans for surgery. And i don't know if this would put him off or not.

Also i find it kinda distracting me from my goal to have this weightloss journey but at the same time it feels good that i have someone in my life who cares about me. I just dont know what to do with the whole issue at hand

Anybody some advice in what to do or say? Or just plain insight what's the best thing to do with the situation at hand.

Thanks in advance ????????????

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[sleeveisa 333]

Good for you, if he cares for you he will support you. I haven't dated in years because of my weight. Good luck

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[whit86 30]

I would say relationships are built on trust and understanding so you need to be able to tell him and if he truly cares for you he should at least try and understand where you are coming from. For me I was in the same situation 5 years ago and put off the surgery not because my then boyfriend wouldn't understand but because I knew I wanted another child and didn't want to have to wait 2 more years to get pregnant. Now 5 years later we are married and have an almost 3 year old and my husband has had the surgery about a month ago and December 1st I go in for mine.

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[macon_me 68]

I was afraid to date before my surgery but I did and I didn't tell absolutely anyone about my surgery until it was too late and my mind was made up. I didn't allow anyone to deter me. The person I was dating tried to show me all these wls horror stories on YouTube

sleeved November 8th. 27yrs. HW 273 SW 233 CW 221. IG @macon_me

[Mindy78 372]

I started dating my fiance in April. I had been planning this since January. I said nothing at first. I had other battles to deal with. When I did tell him he tried to talk me out of it, but for fear something would go wrong. He's been my rock my biggest supporter and fan. Took his vacation off to help me when I had surgery and proposed 6 days after. Every person is different and you will know when the time is right to tell who ever.

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[highfunctioningfatman 2,675]

Just a word of caution. The hormone dumping out of the fat can be difficult to deal with. Before committing to something, think about it. If you get mad think about the consequences. If you're extremely happy, make sure that it is real.

Either way good luck!

[The New Kel 1,312]

I really think it depends on how well you really know him. Personally I would wait till you were more than 'kinda sorta' dating. I'd want to be sure that there was a true solid relationship forming. I'm sure it would be nice to have a support person who cares about you help you through the journey. Can you trust him? Have you told others about the surgery?

[Mindy78 372]

Just a word of caution. The hormone dumping out of the fat can be difficult to deal with. Before committing to something, think about it. If you get mad think about the consequences. If you're extremely happy, make sure that it is real.

Either way good luck!

You are not kidding. I cry over the silliest things. Finally someone explained what was going on.

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[Jobey 177]

I met my now bf when I was about 2.5 months post op and I disclosed everything on our first date. But I was also diagnosed with an autoimmune disease at the beginning of the year so if this relationship was destined for anything I couldn't start it with a lie.

I'm so happy I did He's really been the one thing this year that hasn't sucked but I think he's also part of the reason why I'm pretty happy now

What if this guy is husband material?? Would you wanna start that with a lie??

HW - 140kg or 310lbs

SW - 132.5kg or 291.5lbs

CW - 92kg or 202.5lbs

Surgery date - 7 June 2016