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QueenOfTheTamazons    634

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You are definately not alone! I am excited for you! I used to snore so bad i would wake both me and my hubby up. I was on bipap for years and now i am 152lbs down and at a normal healthy weight.

I no longer snore at all! I dont use bipap any longer.

It doesnt feel like i am going to have a heart attack everytime i take the stairs.

The only thing i do have a problem with is my back pain and i am afraid that i will have that for the rest of my life. I have always said my only regret is not having this surgery before i did so much damage to my spine.

I literally know the pain and sickness you are feeling and I am telling you there is a whole new life for you! Keep us posted on your progress.

Is your bipap for obstructive, central or complex sleep apnea? I have one too and am trying to find out if anyones central or complex sleep apnea was resolved by weight loss.]

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nquarcini    4

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Everyone tells me the same thing. My boss even sat me down in her office trying to convince me to change my mind about the surgery. I'm still in the beginning of the process. I myself have a BMI of 43 and am 130lbs over weight. So I definitely hear you with the "you don't need weight loss surgery"

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Raynbolite    302

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You carry your weight so well... you're just tall...yea yea.... people just don't get it. I know, if the zombie apocalypse happened, I'd be the first to get eaten! I can't jog for more than 3seconds. I'm 8wks post op...gotta a long ways to go...but I am going to get lighter and healthier. I can admit I'm fat, why people around me can't, makes no sense!

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shannenm    28

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I know! I'm 5'8. My Aunt told me, we are just a "big" family deal with it! NO!! I won't.! You may, but not me. I like when I say yes I'm a fat, and need to get this weight off, and people say. You're not fat!! I'm like " are we looking at the same person? You won't hurt my feelings"!

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Smdnght28    69

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I honestly get so angry now when I hear that

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Smdnght28    69

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You carry your weight so well... you're just tall...yea yea.... people just don't get it. I know, if the zombie apocalypse happened, I'd be the first to get eaten! I can't jog for more than 3seconds. I'm 8wks post op...gotta a long ways to go...but I am going to get lighter and healthier. I can admit I'm fat, why people around me can't, makes no sense!

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I just said that zombie apocalypse reference to my husband four days ago. I hate it when Say to people that I'm fat and they are like where? Like really you don't see what I see come on!

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jtellechea001    87

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I've heard it so many times too! I'm tired of hearing it. I'm also 150lbs over weight and I don't "look" it! I didn't know I had to look a certain way! I also get a lot of people trying to persuade me and change my mind telling me I can do it on my own by eating healthier and exercising and when I tell them I'm going through with the surgery they tell me I'm being hard headed and ignorant! I'm so over it! I'm 3 days away from surgery, I'M READY but so scared! I just want it over with!

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carlaw    82

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That is so aggravating! Then they tell u how thin u r and u want to believe them but u see a photo and know you are still very obese! "you don't need to lose anymore!"... Please...

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gabysmum    18

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I hear ya! I'm 5'10 and 286 (on a good day). I wear an XL top and a 18w -20w on the bottom plus I'm latina (big butt and legs). My bmi is 41, sounds so ugly when you say morbidly obese, like, I'm so heavy I can die from complications due to my weight. I have been 318 lbs and I know that I most likely be there again. So, I don't look like I need (or deserve) to be healthy? people are plain confusing...I'm not telling anyone anymore, made 1 mistake and regret it!

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rnyjessica    6

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I tell people I am having weight lose surgery and they tell me you don't need it you hide and carry your weight well, gee thanks I pull off being fat well, not. I have knee pain, hip pain and can't aleep. Can't keep up with my kids.

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psvzum    81

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I haven't read the other comments so this may have already been said. This is pretty much the same as people saying, "Oh, you're not fat!", or "you don't need to lose weight", "you don't need to lose THAT MUCH weight", etc. I find this comes from them being uncomfortable agreeing that, yes, you sure are fat!

I never shared my intention to have RNY with anyone. But when I was heavy, and complained about it, I'd get this type response. I stopped complaining about it. ;)

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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
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