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mcmom2016    13

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I've read all the chains on who to tell. My question is we have family friends who are wanting to make plans to go on trips i.e. camping and ATV riding now that it's getting to be fall. They're looking at the weekend of and the weekend after my surgery. Obviously I can't go for a while after surgery and without telling them what's going on, I feel like we are just blowing them off. The husband keeps suggesting dates, and my husband keeps replying with "we're busy , I don't know what we're doing, but we're busy". I'm not sure what to say. I don't want to lie, but I also don't want to share this. Any suggestions?

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genn    460

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Mayb just tell them u are having a procedure done. U don't have to go into detail but just let them know afterwards you won't be able to be too active for alittle while.

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sc101071    398

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Give them your own suggested dates when you would be able to do it.

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Pescador    1,374

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We were out of commission around a week. After that you could go camping or somewhere and take your Protein Shakes and Soups, etc. We went through Thanksgiving three years ago sipping chili, which was delicious!

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Pescador    1,374

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You can always plan something and cancel if necessary! You will recover quickly! I never even felt I had surgery. Until I choked on a soft piece of chicken six weeks out, LOL

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mcmom2016    13

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So I tried the story of "I'm having a procedure" and nothing else. Didn't go over well. I guess it would be ok if they were distant friends we didn't see all the time. But now they are all worried and things are weird because there's this big secret. Think I'm going to tell them the gallbladder story. I hate to lie, I just don't want to tell the truth. I'm afraid it will make me more nervous and I might chicken out. I get that this sounds like the rantings of a kinder and not a 40something adult :-) thanks for helping despite that fact!

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Sai    785

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I told everyone I'm having a surgery done and need time to recover but wasn't specific. Only one pushed for details (I think most are concerned about their own life and just hope you are safe and well), and I said to fix an old problem. No lies on my part. I've always been a private person by nature.

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Pescador    1,374

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Post surgery you will be thankful you didn't tell anyone. We have social friends who go ON and ON about our weight loss, and make me want to scream. If they knew about the surgery, the world would know. These are mostly our neighbors, so there is no avoiding them. I am not ashamed to tell people, it was my husband's one request, and now I am grateful for that decision.

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Pescador    1,374

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We were gone from home half a day each for the sleeve, and then home. Never even told my husbands adult son. If I had been working I could have taken 2-3 days off for vacation and no one would have known. I feel bad for the people here that have so much pain and problems, because at 66 my husband and I had so little pain and no problems.

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dancielady    46

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I decided I'm using the hernia lie. I've only even told a handful of people that I was having surgery (because I had to coordinate no lifting for 6 weeks for a volunteer position). I feel like if I say I'm having surgery then all this weight loss they will easily put it together. Only one person asked what my surgery was for and I felt so awkward lying, but I did it! I'm a SAHM in a smaller town and I just don't really want to be a gossip subject with all the other SAHM's.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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