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Coming here for support. I have made some not so great food choices. I'm 7 almost 8 weeks post op and allowed foods as tolerated. I've tolerated everything. Including not so great stuff. Breads, sugar, etc. I noticed over this past week and weekend I've just made stupid decisions when it came to food. I've been seeing my therapist still so there is that support and help. But, I don't want to have the mind set "I'll just fail this time too" or "its too late now" anymore. I just feel like that's my mindset when I mess up or make a bad food choice. Any words of help or support? Anyone relate? Really bummed. I'm down 33 lbs since surgery. That's encouraging but I'm stalling. Partially BC of my choices, I'm sure.

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Get your game on! This is the opportunity of our lifetime to get healthy. It is simply a choice to eat right or eat crap. Three years post sleeve, no rice, bread, sugar,pasta, or junk in our home. I always eat before I leave home, always, or I might be tempted by something. I wish you the best!

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@@madisunshine1 Don't waste the opportunity to get healthy! Try writing a list of all the things you want to do once you've lost weight (ski, kayak, travel, wear sexy dress and heels, improved sex life, run a 5k, ride a rollercoaster, etc) and every time you have a temptation to eat junk - look at all the reasons you need to say NO! Stay strong - you can do this!!!

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You've got this! It's never too late to change! I've had days where I've made horrible food choices and punished myself for it. You just have to get back to eating right and following your plan! It's okay to treat yourself every now and then, just don't do it too often. Remember all of the reasons you started this journey! You can do this, I promise!

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i tolerated everything too. at first it was awesome because i almost prided myself on being the patient that was the 'prize patient' and had no issues at all.

because i COULD tolerate it all, i DID. i ate all foods. i didn't eat too early, i followed the post op plan i was given but it was only a guide through 3 months post and then i had no further follow up.

so here i am 2 years post op, still eating most things and 20 lbs up from my lowest. i would give just about anything to go back and redo it at the 3-4 month mark and keep pushing as hard as i could.

now i'm seeing a new surgeon this week and hopefully he will help me get back on track...

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Write down three things you did right today and focus on your positives. Focusing on the negative will only make them larger. You got this. Positive self talk!!! The sugar and bread isn't worth it!

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You've got to give yourself a good, swift kick in the ass and get back at it!

You've lost THIRTY THREE pounds in less than 8 weeks...when have you EVER done that before?? I've lost 48 in TEN WEEKS...why would either of us sabotage ourselves at this point? We've had this huge, life-changing surgery and to not change our lives would be such a colossal lost opportunity. Stop eating bread and crap that's not helping you right now. Jump back into Protein shakes if you need, to reset your head and your stomach.

I've watched you since you got here (your photo grabbed my attention, I'm an OR nurse!) and you've been so upbeat and ON PLAN. Stop yourself from slipping into bad habits RIGHT NOW and get back on track! I'll message with you every day, I'll come back to this thread every day, we can share what we've eaten, I'll cry with you and yell at you and you can yell at me...but don't let this momentary bump in the road turn into anything bigger. You can do this. WE can do this, all of us.

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I like you! @shelterdog34 I want you on my side too!

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i agree with the above advice. do NOT slip backwards. use the tools you have.

if necessary, make an appointment with your doc or nut to keep some accountability. for ME, that was a large component of my regain. i had no follow up after 3 months, just a 1x/year appointment. Now that i have new insurance and had to transfer to a different doctor, i'm happy to find out that he sees his patients every three months forever, AND you see the nut every time too.

stay the path your are on. good luck!

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Do you want real advice or warm fuzzy stuff?

I think I got some great and real advice. Thanks :)

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You've got to give yourself a good, swift kick in the ass and get back at it!

You've lost THIRTY THREE pounds in less than 8 weeks...when have you EVER done that before?? I've lost 48 in TEN WEEKS...why would either of us sabotage ourselves at this point? We've had this huge, life-changing surgery and to not change our lives would be such a colossal lost opportunity. Stop eating bread and crap that's not helping you right now. Jump back into Protein shakes if you need, to reset your head and your stomach.

I've watched you since you got here (your photo grabbed my attention, I'm an OR nurse!) and you've been so upbeat and ON PLAN. Stop yourself from slipping into bad habits RIGHT NOW and get back on track! I'll message with you every day, I'll come back to this thread every day, we can share what we've eaten, I'll cry with you and yell at you and you can yell at me...but don't let this momentary bump in the road turn into anything bigger. You can do this. WE can do this, all of us.

Sent you a message. Because you're awesome. :) :)

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i agree with the above advice. do NOT slip backwards. use the tools you have.

if necessary, make an appointment with your doc or nut to keep some accountability. for ME, that was a large component of my regain. i had no follow up after 3 months, just a 1x/year appointment. Now that i have new insurance and had to transfer to a different doctor, i'm happy to find out that he sees his patients every three months forever, AND you see the nut every time too.

stay the path your are on. good luck!

Currently seeing my surgeon. Waiting in the office. :) thanks for the input! Grateful!

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i tolerated everything too. at first it was awesome because i almost prided myself on being the patient that was the 'prize patient' and had no issues at all.

because i COULD tolerate it all, i DID. i ate all foods. i didn't eat too early, i followed the post op plan i was given but it was only a guide through 3 months post and then i had no further follow up.

so here i am 2 years post op, still eating most things and 20 lbs up from my lowest. i would give just about anything to go back and redo it at the 3-4 month mark and keep pushing as hard as i could.

now i'm seeing a new surgeon this week and hopefully he will help me get back on track...

Wishing you the best with your new surgeon!! Thank you for your advice!

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I agree that you DID get some great advice so I won't repeat it. I will say that you need to make sure you have some "defense mechanisms" to use when it get hard.

If you are out, Listerine strips are awesome. They taste horrible and they will make anything you eat taste horrible for an hour or so.

If you are home, gargle with real Listerine. See above but WAY worse.

Paint your nails because you can't eat crap with wet fingers.

Learn to knit or crochet or something that involves your hands and make it a goal to have gifts ready for Christmas or Hanukkah or whatever you choose to Celebrate.

Put on some loud music and clean a room or three in your house. It's distracting and rewarding.

Have healthy FILLING foods in the house that are already prepared for the times when you are hangry. Shrimp salad, cheese cubes, rotisserie chicken, imitation crab legs, hard boiled eggs... Sometimes when my sugar drops, I make bad decisions. I take that ability down a few notches by not having an excuse but to have something healthy available.

I have no doubt you can do it. :D

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I agree that you DID get some great advice so I won't repeat it. I will say that you need to make sure you have some "defense mechanisms" to use when it get hard.

If you are out, Listerine strips are awesome. They taste horrible and they will make anything you eat taste horrible for an hour or so.

If you are home, gargle with real Listerine. See above but WAY worse.

Paint your nails because you can't eat crap with wet fingers.

Learn to knit or crochet or something that involves your hands and make it a goal to have gifts ready for Christmas or Hanukkah or whatever you choose to Celebrate.< /p>

Put on some loud music and clean a room or three in your house. It's distracting and rewarding.

Have healthy FILLING foods in the house that are already prepared for the times when you are hangry. Shrimp salad, cheese cubes, rotisserie chicken, imitation crab legs, hard boiled eggs... Sometimes when my sugar drops, I make bad decisions. I take that ability down a few notches by not having an excuse but to have something healthy available.

I have no doubt you can do it. :D

Never have even thought about listerine. Those are all some FANTASTIC ideas. Wow. Thank you! So much!!

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Agreed, that listerine strips idea is going with me to work. I get boredom hunger sometimes at work because unfortunately the majority of the time I'm sitting on my ass. I don't necessarily make terrible choices but make ones that could be better! This will def do the trick!!!

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