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zsnaani    29

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Struggling!!!

A whole year has gone by already and I have received more negative than positive from family and so called friends. Now I am concerned and feel ashamed because I have not lost as much as I should have. I did not even Celebrate my first surgerversery (sp). Just healing from two major surgeries at the same time (RNY & gallbladder) was enough but now I realize that the negative reactions sent me more into a depressive state. My starting weight was over 500, maybe there is a willing buddy out there who has been successful with losing a massive amount of weight too.

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Cervidae    2,389

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I've lost 227 total so far in the last two years, about 170 since surgery about a year ago. Still losing. My inbox is always open! Don't let the judgement and negativity get you down. You've taken control of your life and done things most people would be way too afraid to do.

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zsnaani    29

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...and I will use your box real soon...thanks so much for reaching out to me...have a great day! :-)

I've lost 227 total so far in the last two years, about 170 since surgery about a year ago. Still losing. My inbox is always open! Don't let the judgement and negativity get you down. You've taken control of your life and done things most people would be way too afraid to do.

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Daniel2015    262

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Also happy to help. My starting weight was 504, RNY on 8/4/15. Current weight 232; losing right at about 272 this year. My surgiversary is tomorrow, and one year follow up Monday.

I'm celebrating by having plastic surgery! I think you have to be your own advocate. People that bring negativity, well that's about them and their "stuff"-not about you.

Although everyone has been supportive to me, I know no one can understand my journey but my fellow brothers and sisters that have walked the same path.

I also know what you mean, it's a different perspective to travel down from the 500's. So, feel free to message me. I'm truly happy to help. Know you're not alone and just as it takes a village to raise a child, I think it takes a community to heal from this journey. There are endless kind and supportive and inspiring people for you here.

All the best, and let me know if I can be of any support or assistance.

Daniel

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zsnaani    29

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Oh :-), thank you so very much, you will be hearing from me! Have a fantastic day!

Also happy to help. My starting weight was 504, RNY on 8/4/15. Current weight 232; losing right at about 272 this year. My surgiversary is tomorrow, and one year follow up Monday.

I'm celebrating by having plastic surgery! I think you have to be your own advocate. People that bring negativity, well that's about them and their "stuff"-not about you.

Although everyone has been supportive to me, I know no one can understand my journey but my fellow brothers and sisters that have walked the same path.

I also know what you mean, it's a different perspective to travel down from the 500's. So, feel free to message me. I'm truly happy to help. Know you're not alone and just as it takes a village to raise a child, I think it takes a community to heal from this journey. There are endless kind and supportive and inspiring people for you here.

All the best, and let me know if I can be of any support or assistance.

Daniel


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emme.vee    142

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Struggling!!!

A whole year has gone by already and I have received more negative than positive from family and so called friends. Now I am concerned and feel ashamed because I have not lost as much as I should have. I did not even Celebrate my first surgerversery (sp). Just healing from two major surgeries at the same time (RNY & gallbladder) was enough but now I realize that the negative reactions sent me more into a depressive state. My starting weight was over 500, maybe there is a willing buddy out there who has been successful with losing a massive amount of weight too.

I haven't had surgery and my starting weight is lower, but I wanted to give you some words of encouragement. You did something wonderful for your life! This is your life to live. People are always going to have something negative to say. Let them talk. Let them say what they want. I'm sure you're doing great and probably better if you had a better support system. Don't give up!

I don't know if you have heard of Joel Osteen but he has a radio station on Sirius and I started listening to him. There is a message he's constantly reiterating that I'd like to share with you: shake off the negativity, shake off the self doubt, this is your time to shine!

Congratulations on your decision to save your life .

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zsnaani    29

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YES, I DID MAKE A DECISION TO CHANGE MY LIFE!!! YES, IT IS MY TIME TO SHINE!!!

Thanks for mentioning Pastor Osteen, he of my favorites! I needed to be reminded of that this morning!

Thanks for the support, I wish you well on your journey...take care...don't be a stranger. :D

Struggling!!!

A whole year has gone by already and I have received more negative than positive from family and so called friends. Now I am concerned and feel ashamed because I have not lost as much as I should have. I did not even Celebrate my first surgerversery (sp). Just healing from two major surgeries at the same time (RNY & gallbladder) was enough but now I realize that the negative reactions sent me more into a depressive state. My starting weight was over 500, maybe there is a willing buddy out there who has been successful with losing a massive amount of weight too.

I haven't had surgery and my starting weight is lower, but I wanted to give you some words of encouragement. You did something wonderful for your life! This is your life to live. People are always going to have something negative to say. Let them talk. Let them say what they want. I'm sure you're doing great and probably better if you had a better support system. Don't give up!

I don't know if you have heard of Joel Osteen but he has a radio station on Sirius and I started listening to him. There is a message he's constantly reiterating that I'd like to share with you: shake off the negativity, shake off the self doubt, this is your time to shine!

Congratulations on your decision to save your life .


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