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6 weeks post op, feeling a little discouraged



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I had surgery on the first week of june.

So far, I've lost 28 pounds, and I'm quite happy with it.

I'm 25 years old, have lots of friends and an active social life. I'm worried I will never be able to go to restaurants again or have some drinks with my friends.

I'm eating soft foods, no carbs (following my doctor's orders), very little portions, but I still feel nauseous every time I eat something... it's making me feel a little bit depressed and wonder if my condition is going to improve?

I do not want to tell everyone about my procedure, because I don't feel like having to justify it to everyone I know... My question here is, would I ever be able to eat "normal" again (I understand about the portions, and I really want to take care of me eating the right food) but I also want to know If I'll ever be able to go out again and have fun without being nauseous or being worried about the menu?

Thanks!

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I'm only 4 weeks out, so I haven't experienced "normal" yet - but all of my reading and research tells me that yes, you will be able to eat just about anything you want to. Most vets talk about doing so at 18 months+, though I believe many say they could have as early as 9-10 months out, they just chose not to because they were still in the losing phase.

The time right after surgery is not our "new normal".

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I am sorry you are feeling nauseated when you eat. I am 3 weeks out and just began soft foods. My surgeon said to make each bite no larger than a dime, chew well then swallow. Wait a little before having another one. He said that nausea is usually caused by eating too fast or too large a bite. An entire meal should take 20 to 30 minutes right now. I just finished my first scrambled egg and it took me 25 minutes to eat it. No problems.

Try that and see how you do. I wanted to eat faster but am testing everything in this phase. You will be able to go out to restaurants. Check the menu out before you go so you can plan ahead. I have already done so and have several meals coming up this weekend out with friends.

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I'm 11 weeks / 3 months post op and I can say that at this point I've tried everything I've craved. I do track every bite. I don't dare to try bread, Pasta, tortillas or rice. I just feel it will be very heavy for me and I'd rather pass. I'm not a alcohol drinker so that's no biggy for me. I feel very normal with family and friends just takes me longer to eat a tiny plate/bites (I've adapted very well to my sleeve) loving the results.

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Six months out and I am comfortable dining with friends they all know I am on a tight eating plan and I always start with the appetizer menu.

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Six months out and I am comfortable dining with friends they all know I am on a tight eating plan and I always start with the appetizer menu.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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