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thank you to everyone for sharing your stories and for your condolences.

this has been a difficult week going back to work and all. I remain heartbroken and just trying to do the things I need to do.

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I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family at this time.

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I'm so sorry for the loss of your father :(

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@@Christinamo7,

I am so sorry for your loss. I know that is woefully inadequate, but I don’t really know what else to say.

In such stressful times, I try to shift my health efforts from “great” to “do no damage.” I have enough else to worry about, and am afraid if I put too much pressure on myself to keep my healthy habits up perfectly, I will reach a failure point and fail at that and at everything else going on in my life. So, I just try to “do no damage.” For you at this point, I would say maybe focus on not eating too much comfort food and convenience food (which I bet are easier than healthy foods to locate now when everything’s so stressful), and maybe focus on not gaining weight rather than worry about weight loss. The weight loss can come back when you are not so overwhelmed and have the capacity to deal with it.

I am so sorry, and I hope you get through this rough time okay.

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@@Alex Brecher the first week when I was home, and when I go back to visit Mama in a couple of weeks I will just eat whatever is presented to me, trying to make my best choices from that. Mom doesn't need to worry about a special diet for me right now. Thankfully at almost 5 months, going to Protein first is pretty automatic, plus I feel better that way. Comfort food hasn't been a problem so far. Trying to drink enough and get enough Protein has been, although hard as it has been to go back to work it helps me fall into small meal/snacks habits and that I am doing better on those days. I am a stress cleaner - but I am also finding I get very fatigued. Grieving takes a tremendous toll and drains you. sleeping a good long time, but apparently not sleeping particularly well. I just have to give myself permission to back off the workouts a little bit for now and so I have given myself leave to not track my exercise until September, although I am still trying to walk some each day. having a hard time getting back to my yoga, even though I *know* it will help me. I am sad, and I just want to curl up when I am home. It's just something you have to go through I suppose. This site has been so helpful to me in terms of having peers who have also been through really rough Patches in their first year after surgery - they have helped me so much. I hope that by sharing here, someone else, at some point might also feel less alone when something happens to knock them down on their journey.

@@krazy kat *hugs* backatcha.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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