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Miss Mac    6,262

Miss Mac
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Instead of losing who you are, you will discover who you are. Weight loss shrinks your belly, not your sense of humor. Most of our bariatric teams include access to a psychologist who can help us navigate through the mental and emotional changes that come with a shape we are not familiar with.

You don't have to eat healthy food. You get to eat healthy food. You will no longer be a slave to the processed food industry and their marketing machine. Their stuff is not really food anyway. They produce factory edibles full of chemicals and pesticides. With you new high Protein lifestyle, your body will thrive instead of just exist under reduced circumstances.

You don't have to exercise. You will be in a new body the enables you to exercise. The human body is built to move. That is why we have arms and legs and muscles and joints. We were not meant to become part of the sofa, but that is what our excess weight has done to us,

You will get to re-invent yourself. You may be shy now, but when you lose weight, you gain confidence. When someone gives you are hard time about your body or medical choices, you will either want to educate them or cold-konk them. But you won't take it any more and hide behind your weight with shame.

Although it may be painful, people can't keep their opinions to themselves and they will expose how they really think of you. That's when you realize that you may indeed have to adjust your circle of friends or distance yourself from toxic family who would rather see you fail than be thinner, happier and healthier than they are.

Chirp up. You can ditch the spiral of despair and grief for the old you and accept the challenge and adventure of creating the best you that you are supposed to be.

Are you familiar with the comedienne Lisa Lampanelli? She got sleeved a couple of years ago and is just as funny as she ever was.

You have already had your surgery and may as well hang on for the ride.

By the way, the discomfort and nausea will go away. Before you know it, you will be at your one year anniversary and wonder where the time went.

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ZillyNa    16

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I will have the surgery on May 25th and I feel the same you described.

I'm scared because I want to throw off this fat coat but I don't know how I 'm without it, under it.

I'm convinced I'm not more able to handle this health and psychological huge problem, so I decide to ask help to the health system.

In my future, I don't know what version of myself I'm going to face to, but I'm sure my body will thank me and my life quality will increase.

But, again, beyond wisdom, I'm scared, I'm doubting....

:blink: :unsure:

we'll have a better life :)

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jane13    2,256

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I agree, @@MissMac nailed it, as usual!

I do have one thing to add.

You may find out that your honest opinions may ~~~~flow~~~~ more easily now, instead of holding back and not saying what you think. Take a breath and like MM said hang on for the ride :rolleyes:

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Karma J Riddell Henson    68

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I just had my surgery done on May 9th, 2016. Three days out now. I am not feeling too bad... a little sore... a little nauseated on and off, but better than I thought I would.

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readyforachange84    10

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Instead of losing who you are, you will discover who you are. Weight loss shrinks your belly, not your sense of humor. Most of our bariatric teams include access to a psychologist who can help us navigate through the mental and emotional changes that come with a shape we are not familiar with.

You don't have to eat healthy food. You get to eat healthy food. You will no longer be a slave to the processed food industry and their marketing machine. Their stuff is not really food anyway. They produce factory edibles full of chemicals and pesticides. With you new high Protein lifestyle, your body will thrive instead of just exist under reduced circumstances.

You don't have to exercise. You will be in a new body the enables you to exercise. The human body is built to move. That is why we have arms and legs and muscles and joints. We were not meant to become part of the sofa, but that is what our excess weight has done to us,

You will get to re-invent yourself. You may be shy now, but when you lose weight, you gain confidence. When someone gives you are hard time about your body or medical choices, you will either want to educate them or cold-konk them. But you won't take it any more and hide behind your weight with shame.

Although it may be painful, people can't keep their opinions to themselves and they will expose how they really think of you. That's when you realize that you may indeed have to adjust your circle of friends or distance yourself from toxic family who would rather see you fail than be thinner, happier and healthier than they are.

Chirp up. You can ditch the spiral of despair and grief for the old you and accept the challenge and adventure of creating the best you that you are supposed to be.

Are you familiar with the comedienne Lisa Lampanelli? She got sleeved a couple of years ago and is just as funny as she ever was.

You have already had your surgery and may as well hang on for the ride.

By the way, the discomfort and nausea will go away. Before you know it, you will be at your one year anniversary and wonder where the time went.

Today makes a week and today I am really depressed. I dont know if it is because it is a week anniversary or what. I find myself not wanting to leave the house. I have left very minimal times to go to my moms and a support group yesterday but otherwise I stay home. I feel cut off from the world but it is me cutting myself off not the other way around. I return to work in two weeks and I dont know how to face people. I feel like I want to stay in the comfort of my own home forever.

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stacyrg2    350

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In all honesty I would call your surgeon and explain how you feel. Maybe he or she has a mental health professional on staff or someone they can refer you to. I don't think that not wanting to leave the house is a normal reaction to surgery. I hope you can seek out the assistance of someone to help you through these emotions. Please make the call.

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KristenLe    5,980

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Depression symptoms can be exacerbated after WLS. Your hormones are all out of control. I would also suggest calling your Surgeon. You may needs some meds to get you over the hormone dump (or for long term). Counseling would be helpful too.

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readyforachange84    10

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Depression symptoms can be exacerbated after WLS. Your hormones are all out of control. I would also suggest calling your Surgeon. You may needs some meds to get you over the hormone dump (or for long term). Counseling would be helpful too.

I am already on celexa which I have been on for years.

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jaxmom    644

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Just a thought... I've been on pristiq for years and do very well on it. (It may account for my annoying cheerfulness now that I think about it). Anyway after my surgery a pharmacist came to my room to go over my meds... He said I needed to see my GP immediately because my pristiq was slow release and could potentially be a big issue due to my plumbing changes. Other members (you guys rock) really encouraged me to go and I did. Doctor did a lot of research, we discussed it and decided to keep me on it till the end of the summer unless I had an issue. Thank god i don't because it took forever to get a head med that worked. Sounds like you should discuss your med with your doctor because what you are feeling is horrible. I'm three weeks out and exactly the opposite- when I wake up and realize "I have a sleeve!!! It's not a dream!!" I'm so happy. I feel like I finally have control over my life and the feeling... I can't put into words. Please, please call your doctor because you have a lot of people who want you to feel better!!! :)

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VSGAnn2014    12,992

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Just a counterpoint here from someone who doesn't suffer from depression ....

A week after my own WLS surgery I was happy as could be to stay home and cocoon. After all, you've just had major surgery! Your body is working very hard to heal. You're probably napping more than you have for some time, maybe ever.

Honestly, nobody I know a week post-op was making daily trips to Sam's Club or costco and throwing dinner parties.

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