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I think the time line after psych approval depends on your insurance and the surgeons schedule. My surgeons office wouldn't schedule without the authorization from my insurance which took just over a week and then the surgery was scheduled out about three weeks. So for me I think my surgery is almost exactly one month after my psych eval, which was also the last thing I had to do before insurance approval.

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@mysicpink74....I hope u get approved this time....I had to get approval thru my insurace before I even started the process. I got my approval in November after all appointments and classes my sugery date is Tuesday!!...Good Luck to you!

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@mysicpink74....I hope u get approved this time....I had to get approval thru my insurace before I even started the process. I got my approval in November after all appointments and classes my sugery date is Tuesday!!...Good Luck to you!

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How did you get approval first before all your Appts?? I just don't want to be "let down" after getting my hopes up for this! I've worked too hard & come to far to be disappointed again

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Thanks..Ok...will do..I had an appointment with my regular doc and we talked about it and she agreed with me that it was a good idea to have the sugery. Then she sent the paper work to my insurance company and they sent my approval letter in the mail. Then all of my appointments were set up after that...you have done the work... now Pray about it!!...

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It's going to be a huge change in lifestyle for me. I'm a beer drinker and I make my own beer at home. I'm really into craft beers and breweries and it is one of my passions. These types of beers carry a lot of calories, 250 calories and up each beer! Drinking and visiting breweries and hanging out watching football games on Sunday's with my friends is something I love to do but I know it's not healthy. I'm just scared of what the future will bring

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I know the feeling well of being a big beer drinker myself and especially watching it football and drinking eating with friends. Unfortunately some of my friends couldn't handle me having surgery and started making comments so I had to cut ties with a few of them. It's a hard decision but at the end of the day the only person that cares about you is the the person in the mirror. We all have to make hard choices but the end result is worth it. I added a pic to show my progress. post-244766-14591212515074_thumb.jpg

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Omg...I have the same feelings. I haven't told anyone because I dont want any negative comments or people saying all you have to do is......or....U not that big....u taking the easy way out...Blah blah blah...I'm already embarrassed that I couldn't do it by myself and have to have the sugery. I'm not even scared of the sugery just scared of what I will look like afterwards....I'm scared that I might fail like all the other time I tried....I'm really an emotional wreck...I just break out crying and I don't know why...My sugery is Tuesday I'm on my pre-op liquid diet...just doing alot of praying!!!

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The unknown is always a bit scary...but I'll bet if you look back over your life you'll find some outcomes you've worried about that never happened. You're at a good place...taking advantage of an opportunity to regain some joy in your life. Good for you! And anyone that's negative or even just jealous....that's their problem.

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I'm sure everyone here has had a battle going in their minds about wether or not this is a good idea. I'm having that battle now. I feel like I am overreacting. I know deep down that I need to do this. I'm having a hard time wrapping my brain around it. I'm not necessarily afraid of the surgery but what it's going to bring after the fact. I've seen people that have had it done and they don't look quite right. I've heard people say "is he sick?" Or "he looks unhealthy, he looked better fat". That type of crap scares me.

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I probably go back and forth at least 5 times a day since I got my surgery date. It's May 10th and I'll probably go back and forth another 5000 times before I just do it. It's the waiting and anxiety that makes it worse.

My main thing is the permanency which is the reason I chose the sleeve in the first place lol. That's about 60% of my anxiety. It's scary. It's a major life adjustment. Probably more than marriage. That's how I feel anyway.

About 10% is surgery complications.

About 10% is fear of failure

About 10% is never eating (fill in the blank) again

And the last 10% is the effect it will have on my relationships with my friends, husband, new people I meet, my family and what they think of me.

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Jmc534 & Tssiemer1....I have all of those exact feelings...my sugery is TOMORROW!!!!...and I've been crying all day!!... just not confident about my decision????????...scared of the results!

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So today I told my best friend that I was considering weight loss surgery during lunch. He seemed very surprised but very understanding. By the way, he is bigger than me! He just told me that I have to do what's best for myself and my family. He weighs over 300 lbs and is pre-diabetic. He also has many other health issues. I wish he would look into surgery as well but I didn't say anything to him because I didn't want to push the issue.

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Jmc. I am ten hours post surgery and i have to say it all went better than i expected. Im a big wuss when it comes to needles etc but the process was prompt and professional. I am relatively painfree as in its not like a toothache or headache, just abit sore when i swallow. So dont be discouraged from going ahead but alsomake sure you are committed and happy to ahead. For me im looking for increased life expectancy and more participation in life. Im happy with the sleeve asva choice as i can always have a full blown bypass but this was the first stage of a bypass that they then realised alot of people disnt need to go further. Its also a quicker and less risky operation. Goodluck with your decision.

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@@kiwijet thank you very much for your input. I actually had diverticulitis surgery a year ago so it's a pretty similar process as far as how they do the surgery i.e. Laparoscopic etc. I missed 2 or 3 months of work so I'm sure the recovery is not that long. I should rephrase my original title of this post. I'm not really nervous about the actual surgery but more so the weeks and months post surgery. It sounds weird but I'm nervous about losing so much weight in a short period of time. I'm scared that I'm going to look "sick" or "unhealthy" I'm worried that I will fail. If I'm going to do this, I'm going all in. No regrets.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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