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This was never intended to be a horror story - more of a humorous event with a bit of self reflection on the topic.

So, the original coffee date that inspired this - I liked him, but when I refused the offer of a cocktail at his place on our first date, the evening ended abruptly and i didn't hear anymore. I thought...oh well, that is fine. I think he is genuine, just has a different expectation of the pace of things etc.

Anyway, I found out about an event going on in around 2 weeks that is a common interest and I knew none of my pals would want to go. I texted him and asked if he was up for bringing the dogs to this festival and he was quite enthusiastic to make the plans. I am feeling the friend zone thing, but, I have an open mind. I have met a few interesting guys recently and am just keeping it light with all of them.

I just thought it was sort of funny to have the reaction about my photos... and people do sometimes say the oddest things. It did touch a certain nerve as well - that little bit of self doubt. However, i am self reflective and pretty aware that my appearance has nothing to do with any of this.

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"This was never intended to be a horror story - more of a humorous event with a bit of self reflection on the topic."{

I didn't think it was a horror story, the thread morphed into one...not that you have ever posted about that ;-)

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Indeed, I have met some characters, but everyone referred to here appears to be on their meds, stable, any criminal history well behind him and generally pleasant enough sorts. The really eerie part is none of them are boring - so all in all things are starting off well! Summer is my season of recreation so if I haven't settled on someone to see in a few months...I'll let it fade away while I enjoy my summer. For now, this is going pretty ok.

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