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My Husband Abandoned me 3 days before Surgery :(



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Thank you all for your kind words.

Omg Valentina I'm so sorry

Oh my goodness that is the worst thing I could imagine Valentina I am so sorry


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Sooo sorry Valentina .......thank you so much for your words!!! I really appreciate!!


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Thank you all for your kind words.

I told my story to illustrate that there is life after the total loss of support. I cried, I denied and I got pissed. THEN, I got back on track.

I had to remember that I had my WLS for ME. I had to relearn to love myself,--to learn that I am worthy of a happy and healthy life.

I takes time, but there truly is a new life out here. We just have to go and get it!

Just keep posting and the wonderful folks here, (myself included now) will help keep you focused and on track. We all really do care for one another. You'll not have to take this well rewarded journey alone.

I promise.

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Valentina, that is heartbreaking. I am so terribly sorry.

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Oh my Goodness! You're a beautiful QUEEN, and he'll regret his decision on his way to Hell!

Stay prayerful???????????? and shine like the Diamond You are!

You can't bless and curse with the same mouth, the more you bless who hurts the more God bless your life

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Sorry that has happened to you but like the others I think you will be better off without him. We are all here for you cause you do need support. Keep us informed. You will do great but I know how hard it is to raise kids by yourself hang in there.. this is going to make you feel so much better about yourself

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Thank you so much, it's hard but everyone is right!! From the start he wasn't happy to know I was getting the surgery and didn't support me for my decision to do it for myself and my childrens....to improve my health!! I'm battling depression can't sleep because of all the anger building up in me but I'm also have faith in the lord that or later things will get much better!!! I appreciate everyone supports... Means a lot!!

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@@sweetiediaz, I (thankfully) haven’t experienced anything like that, but I want you to know we are all supporting you and wishing you the best!

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Thank you so much, it's hard but everyone is right!! From the start he wasn't happy to know I was getting the surgery and didn't support me for my decision to do it for myself and my childrens....to improve my health!! I'm battling depression can't sleep because of all the anger building up in me but I'm also have faith in the lord that or later things will get much better!!! I appreciate everyone supports... Means a lot!!

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Hi sweetiediaz I know what your going through and can tell you its a rough road but it will get better. My husband left my son and I a few years back while I was fighting cancer. Biggest jerk move. It hurt, tore me up inside, years of taking antidepressents. Not only was I fighting cancer, I was raising a 1 yr old alone and had no job. It wasn't easy, I was so depressed but I can tell you now I'm happier then I've ever been. We deserve someone who will be there for us and support us with our life choices.

Keep your head up and smile, remember your kids depend on you and it only hurts them to see you hurt. Keep your faith..it does get better!

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Hi Melie, so sorry for what you went through... I know it's very hard!!! Thank you so much for sharing your story! It gives me strength and hope to move forward!!! I would love to hear more from your experience if you don't mind!! I'm struggling everyday with this painful journey but very happy with my weight loss surgery!! Take care ????????????

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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