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Hi I'm 6 1/2 months post op and I have recently found out I am pregnant. I don't think it is the fact that I am pregnant but the fact that I might be losing this baby too and the doctors ( Gynecologist) doesn't seem to want to tell me any of the results until he see me in a month. I am beginning to have emotional eating because of this and feel like it is out of my control. Have have lost a total of 120 lbs. 30 pre-op and 90 post op I don't want to be the person that gains all the weight back I need good advice and some motivation. I have been placed on bed rest until further notice. I need help and fast.

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Can they refer you to a therapist? Also, talk to your nutritionist about your food goals with pregnancy.

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I have spoken to my nutritionist she said that they need the results, but the doctor said they can't give it to them because they need to talk to me first. Smh so I ask should I go to another doctor and my nutritionist said it would be vent take longer. I did everything right, I started taking birth control the week after surgery and it still didn't help me at all.

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This is what i would do (and have done under similar circumstances during my first pregnancy): walk into the Dr. office with or without an appt Monday morning and demand to see that doctor to discuss the test results. Tell them you won't take no for an answer because it's having a significant impact on your overall health and wellbeing, thereby impacting the health and wellness of your unborn child. A month will simply not do.

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Don't tolerate that! You have a legal right to your results! God forbid if something is wrong making you wait a month could endanger you and your baby. Tell you will hold them liable if someone doesn't come meet with you and show you your results immediately!

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Telling someone something is wrong (or insinuating such), but they will tell you in a month, is simply cruel. I would do as has been suggested. I would say it is not likely something that would put you/baby at immediate risk, as they would have to act immediately, but this is still cruel and uncalled for.

Please let us know what happens....

Praying for a positive outcome.

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Well I went to go see the doctor today and all they told me is that my HCG levels are going up but it does not mean that I might be pregnant. They said sometime the body will pretend it is pregnant so they are having wait until Wednesday to do the ultrasound. I asked why could they just do it today and they said because they don't have time then I asked if they were going to give the results then and I have to wait to see the doctor. I was referred to this doctor because he supposedly takes good care of his patients but that is not the case. I'm so mad now.

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That sounds like a load of horse pooh to me. The condition you're describing is rare. If hcg levels are going up and you are sexually active and a woman of child bearing potential, then you are probably pregnant.

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That is what my friend said I'm just going to pray. I ask you to pray for a sell I would really appreciate it.

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Update?

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Please update us. We are worried and praying for you!

Edited by UnderDaSea

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Have you taken a home pregnancy test? They are very accurate nowadays.

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Sometimes they delay an ultrasound because they know they can't get a definitive answer too early. You might see a gestational sac at 5 weeks. A fetal pole at 6. But the heartbeat often doesn't show up until 7 weeks.

You could be experiencing a chemical pregnancy. An embryo that tried to implant but just couldn't hang on.

I'm sorry your doctors are so careless with their treatment. I hope you get a firm answer soon so you can start to process. And I hope it's the results you want.

Edited by jhbeck

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Sorry I have not updated it has been a hard week. I had to have a D&C last Thursday the baby had died at 7 weeks. I had to carry the baby an extra 2 week and my stupid gynecologist did not tell me. I am overwhelmed and have recently gain five pounds but I am not going to let this get to me I am going to continue losing weight and try again in a year or more

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I am so sorry for your loss. Having gone through the same thing (but not post-op) I know how awful it is. Praying for you and your family.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

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