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Angie74    170

Angie74
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I've been so excited since I received the news that my insurance approved my surgery!! I received a Feb 23rd date for my sleeve and today at work, I shared the news with a person that I thought would be supportive ---to my surprise I didn't get a Congratulations but a stern - You're cheating!! That doesn't count, why don't you do it the old fashioned way? I laughed it off and just walked away...if only they were in my shoes...they wouldn't be so quick to tell me I'm cheating ....I'm sure in their mind they are just trying to help, but those words don't help anyone at all

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cookarue    233

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"Cheating" on what exactly? You're being cheated every single day of the life and health you want by doing what you've done before. It's a procedure that's going to make things better for your future. We've been part of the 95% of overweight people who can't lose weight without surgery. So, there's nothing wrong with taking the opportunity that the medical field has given us. If losing weight was easy....nobody would be overweight. Just know that I'm so excited for you, and there's lots more of us here that are really rooting for you!!!

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Rogofulm    2,440

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This isn't a game! Or a contest. You're using the best tool available to save your life. If you were drowning in the ocean, would it be cheating to throw you a life preserver instead of making you swim for it? It's exactly the same thing. If they don't get that, ignore them and don't let it bother you. You're making the right choice for your health, and that's what matters. Congratulations!!!

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ACV    34

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I agree with @cookarue. Some people just won't be happy for you. We all are and it's not a competition . Congratulations! !!!!

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AvaFern    3,516

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Ignore that person. To be fair, we are cheaters, lol, but only someone who has had a sleeve gets to judge themselves as such. I am 100% sure I could never stay as small as I am if I hadn't paid someone to cut out 80% of my stomach. I am cool with being a cheater because in the end it got me to where I needed to be. Also, in exchange for cheating, I will likely spend the rest of my life barfing certain types of food, I will never get to enjoy a big meal again, and I have to be careful with my Vitamins and any potential long term effects. I understand people who think that bariatric surgery is cheating, however most of them have not struggled with their weight extensively and if they have, often calling someone else a cheater is out of jealousy.

Do for you what you need to do and if someone else wants to have an opinion, that's their right, just as it is your right to ignore them.

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cindyw41    761

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I'm a cheater too..I'm cheating death..he's not getting me early if I can help it.

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lastmemory318    9

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To anyone that says your cheating they are just ignorant. What's funny is growing up I worked for this guy that always ran me down because of my size and when I mentioned surgery for the first time he told me I was weak and pathetic. Found out recently he had weight loss surgery. Go figure.

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Angie74    170

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To anyone that says your cheating they are just ignorant. What's funny is growing up I worked for this guy that always ran me down because of my size and when I mentioned surgery for the first time he told me I was weak and pathetic. Found out recently he had weight loss surgery. Go figure.

Ha lol well keep in touch ! are u in the us or uk?

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lastmemory318    9

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Im in the US, Louisiana. You?

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Angie74    170

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US Delaware

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Chi2Htown    27

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First of all, congratulations!!! You're 3 days before me so please keep us posted! Secondly I had the same thing sort of happen to me, I smiled and walked away and haven't thought twice about it (although I have had to rethink telling people about my decision). Some people are just haters????

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Susan66    128

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I don't consider WLS surgery to be cheating to attain significant weight loss. With all we had to go through to get approved, the commitment to follow the rules of WLS, and the life after, this is in NO way cheating.

This tool we now have allows us to do what's needed but we still have to be accountable.

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Angie74    170

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First of all, congratulations!!! You're 3 days before me so please keep us posted! Secondly I had the same thing sort of happen to me, I smiled and walked away and haven't thought twice about it (although I have had to rethink telling people about my decision). Some people are just haters????

I will try and keep everyone posted!! :-)

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
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