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Okay after doing a little searching, and coming up empty...I wanted to reach out to see if anyone else had experienced this issue, what they did about it, if anything, etc.

So I am 2.5 months out. And in TOM number 3 since surgery, its regular and I am one of the ones whose TOM did not go haywire just after surgery.

My issue is I have no desire to eat whatsoever during days 1-3. I mean it is a complete lack of appetite, and the only thing that saves me is I have myself on an eating schedule. That being said, I have began some meals and just stopped after a bite or so. And just because I know I have to continue, I will keep it next to me and literally take an hour plus sometimes what generally takes me 20 minutes. Even the drinking Protein is a super struggle during these days.

I am not saying I want the prior crave for chocolate or sweet and salty that comes with the gift each month, but this is the completely opposite, I don't crave anything. And dread eating or drinking for that matter.

The rest of the month is fine generally, still don't have hunger, but I can eat on schedule just fine. This TOM thing is just strange as hell.

Any thoughts are welcome...

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Embrace the lack of appetite, it won't last long and you will miss it in a few months or a year down the road when you suddenly have a very normal appetite again. A few days of not eating much a month is something that won't hurt you and if anything will help you hit goal faster. I am 28 months post-op and while I'm on depo, so there's no TOM there are 1-2 days a week where I'm just not hungry, so I don't eat much those days. I generally don't have much of a desire for food in general, but on days where I'm extra turned-off on the idea of eating it's great because it gives me a day of lower calories and a few ounces less on the scale, that I end up making up and gaining back a few days later. I'm at maintenance right now, but when you're losing, a few days a month with no appetite is a blessing, lol. Enjoy it!

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Embrace the lack of appetite, it won't last long and you will miss it in a few months or a year down the road when you suddenly have a very normal appetite again. A few days of not eating much a month is something that won't hurt you and if anything will help you hit goal faster. I am 28 months post-op and while I'm on depo, so there's no TOM there are 1-2 days a week where I'm just not hungry, so I don't eat much those days. I generally don't have much of a desire for food in general, but on days where I'm extra turned-off on the idea of eating it's great because it gives me a day of lower calories and a few ounces less on the scale, that I end up making up and gaining back a few days later. I'm at maintenance right now, but when you're losing, a few days a month with no appetite is a blessing, lol. Enjoy it!

Ava, I definitely appreciate the reply. Embracing the lack of appetite makes sense. I think my fear is that I am eating on a routine just based on the lack of appetite. If I let the routine slip, I don't want it to end up me just not eating more than those few days. That is my primary purpose for still attempting to eat at the right time.

So I think the best thing is to continue to try to eat at the right time, just not to be really hard on myself for only eating a bite or so.

Thanks

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