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At 24 years old, I find myself stuck in bed or in my apartment more than anything. I suffer from chronic back pain, depression and pcos.

I have struggled with my weight all my life. I grew up learning that food is there for happiness, sadness, stress, and everything you can think of. I was a very active child, but the amount of food I would eat outweighed my activities. As a teenager my depression really kicked in and I had no idea how to handle it or really what was going on with me. I ate.

At 19 I was working my dream job and 3 months in... My back gave out. I have arthritis, bulging discs, degeneration and just recently compressed nerves. My legs give out on me out of no where and the pain I'm in daily is chronic and sometimes unbearable.

Here I am a month away from my 25th birthday and unable to go for walks, drives or anything that a person my age should be doing. I am to embarrassed to go on dates, hang out with friends and even go out in public. I often am limping from my back/hip, or having to be pushed in a wheelchair.

I have dieted and I love working out, but the weight I lost would come back with a vengeance and my back compromised my ability to do much of anything.

I have chose to have surgery to help get some weight off so I can get up and go cycling, jogging, shopping and meeting people. I understand this is not a fix all, but for me its a tool that will help me get my life that I never had.

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I'm glad you found the forum. Lots of great people and advice. Thank you for sharing your story and welcome!!

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I am glad to hear you are doing something about this now. I am often asked if I regret having gastric bypass. I always respond that the only thing I regret is waiting way too long.

I am 52 and I have severe osteo arthritis of my spine as well as other joints. I have had a total of 6 back surgeries as of November and I am looking at another. Multiple fusions. I also have severe bone on bone arthritis of my shoulder and will have surgery on 2/12 to repair it.

Don't wait one more second than you have to. People do not realize the permanent damage to their bodies. You are still very young but it is definitely time to do something now.

Good luck and if you need anything or have questions, feel free to reach out.

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I am glad to hear you are doing something about this now. I am often asked if I regret having gastric bypass. I always respond that the only thing I regret is waiting way too long.

I am 52 and I have severe osteo arthritis of my spine as well as other joints. I have had a total of 6 back surgeries as of November and I am looking at another. Multiple fusions. I also have severe bone on bone arthritis of my shoulder and will have surgery on 2/12 to repair it.

Don't wait one more second than you have to. People do not realize the permanent damage to their bodies. You are still very young but it is definitely time to do something now.

Good luck and if you need anything or have questions, feel free to reach out.

I have heard several stories like this, and watching myself get worse has really lit a fire under my butt haha. I hope your surgery on the shoulder heals quickly!

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You and I have a very similar history, PCOS and all. I got much heavier than you currently are, but I had similar problems. I had to leave a job at 6 weeks because I was in such excruciating pain. I found out later that I screwed up some veins in my leg because I had too much weight on my frame for 8 hours a day. I'm 24.

Feel free to friend me/message me sometime. It sucks right now but it will get better, and you have a good attitude about it which is very important. Hang in there, and take care of yourself. :)

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I had severe back pain before I had surgery and it is now gone. You are doing the right thing. Go for it

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You have all the motivation in the world to use this tool for a healthier life. Addressing the primary issue at a young age is admirable. Thanks for sharing your story and best of luck with your upcoming surgery!

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Thank you everyone for your kind and encouraging words! I appreciate it! I have my wls orientation on February 11! Its a whopping 4 hours, but I am so ready!

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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