Looking for support on this year journey. I can't meet the doctors target for surgery.

Do you mean that you're having trouble losing the weight that the surgeon wants you to lose in order to have surgery?

Do you mean that you're having trouble losing the weight that the surgeon wants you to lose in order to have surgery?

Yes

It's difficult for many people to make such major changes after years of overeating and eating the wrong things. When a person who thinks he or she wants the surgery isn't losing weight to prepare for it, it's an indication that he/she may not be ready to follow through and lose weight after surgery. What a waste that would be.

Try writing a list of all the reasons that you do want to lose weight. No reason is too small or too foolish. Every reason counts. It can be anything from wanting to wear size 7 underpants to wanting to be around to raise one's child and shee the child grow up. It can be for better health. Anything at all. While you write the reasons down, keep them very narrow. Example, "To walk two miles to the post office," not "to be able to walk everywhere." If walking good distances is one of your goals, make each place you want to walk a separate reason. The more reasons you have on your list, the more reasons you'll see that you are willing to start losing weight and keep it going.

I hope that helps. Also, go to the support group that the surgeon's office runs. You'll be sitting down with other people who are or have been where you are now. It'll be a good opportunity to compare experiences and learn from each other.

Thank you for this. I have write down,the weight is up and down but my surgeon wants me to lose another 18 that what killing me. I lose 100 and he wants another 18. I will say I'm mad and confuse but he will know and popular for this process so I keep going forward and rewrite my list at this new stage.

I think I understand. Because you have already lost 100, you are eager to have surgery. Your frustration is understandable, but you have already proved to yourself that you can do it. Be patient and work on the last 18 pounds and you will succeed. I wish you all the best.