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I had my surgery July 29, 2015 and have lost just over 100lbs so far, but I ABSOLUTELY hate when people ask how much have you lost followed by how did you do it. I usually answer "a lot" and I tell them the truth that I had the sleeve procedure. My problem is I then get that "oh you took the easy way out" look from people. There has been nothing easy at all about this journey. I had 4 months straight of nausea and vomiting and still suffer from some vomiting on a smaller scale. But I work very hard watching what I eat and exercising. How do I answering these questions while at the same time stressing that I've worked hard for my weight loss?

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We share the same surgery date and I 'd like to congratulate you on your achievement. You know how hard you have worked and the results show it. Don't fret about what others who are ignorant of what you have been through might say. You did this for you and you have done great.

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I agree w/ fernandfj... NO ONE would willingly have 80-85% of their stomach removed "looking for an easy way out".

People are cruel, nosy, they are busy-bodies...always looking for the next juicy piece of gossip to spread.

I had my procedure for ME...to reclaim a quality of life I'd gone without for far too long...The journey of preparation and the surgery itself weren't easy...and the life-long commitment is one that we have to be constantly aware of...watching, planning our bites and sips.

I'm less than 2 months out--and have heard more than a few unwarranted comments and absurd inquiries.

My last reply was, "You know how when you've got several problems going on...and you fix ONE...and the others sort of begin to take care of themselves and things fall into place on their own?---Yeah---that's the kind of surgery I had....I'd be glad to tell you more if you'd like to pay a portion of my medical bills...otherwise, I don't care to feed your morbid curiosities"

That put an end to it.

Hugs to you---and congratulations on your spectacular success!

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Maybe their look you think they give that "you took the easy way out" is a surgery to lose weight because they can't relate to not being able to lose excess body weight (AND KEEP IT OFF) through dieting and exercise alone?

For those that outright say "you took the easy way out", don't bother to explain your actions, they are ignorant.

By the way, my fellow sleeve buddy, you have done an excellent job so far losing your excess weight. Congratulations!

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Thanks so much for the advice and the words of encouragement. Looking at your stats I can see that you guys have made pretty impressive strides yourselves. Here's to all of our continued success and a healthy and Blessed 2016.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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