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I started my 2 weeks of liquids today. I am not really hungry as more of it is head hunger than anything. I do have a headache. I believe it is from no caffeine.

I have a very supportive husband. He is doing the shakes with me. He said he doesn't want me to have to go through this alone. (He doesn't need to lose weight). It's very sweet.

I am starting to doubt the surgery. I think it's because it's hard and I am scared. I am just going to take it one day at a time I am upset I let myself get here. I know it's just all in my head and this is what I have fought for for the last 6 months.

Did anyone else feel this way? As I write this I am crying. So many emotions. I had to write them down. This site has been good and this the. sometimes it freaks me out. Any advice or support would be greatly appreciated.

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Absolutely. My surgery is Tuesday and I keep thinking "I've done the preop diet just fine, there's no reason I can't lose weight on my own", but I've done it a hundred times and it never stuck.

I'm super scared. I'm afraid of the surgery and the possibility of something happening, and I'm afraid because I can't imagine a life where I'm not overweight even though I desperately want it.

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I had my surgery almost two weeks ago and the hardest part was the first week after the surgery but it does get better! The first week you can be emotional too but in the long run it will be the best thing you can do for yourself

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I am 12 days post op. I was afraid just like you. I cheated on my pre op liquid diet about five times. To me the pre op diet was the hardest part of this whole thing. It went by really quickly to be honest.

The only time I was miserable after surgery was when I had fever two different times. I have had two c sections and three knee surgeries. Yes my stomach was sore when I got up and down after the sleeve, but it was very bare able. I had morphine for 15 hours then I stopped it because I was very groggy and couldn't think. My philosophy is to take the pain meds and stay ahead of the pain. Always worked for me.

I have absolutely not had one issue. I have not been nauseated at all. Everything has gone down smoothly.

It is very normal to be afraid. I, many times, wondered, what if it doesn't work? Blah blah hahaha. I made up my mind it WAS going to work and I was not going to get nauseated.

I have felt so good through this whole process, except for the pre op diet.

Hang in there! You can do this and you will be so happy when it is all over. If you want my email address or phone number, I would be happy to give it to you and we can talk.

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No pre-op diet. The hardest part for me was deciding to have the surgery. Once I did my homework and choose my surgeon I never looked back. I was calm and sure in my decision. I complied with every request and hard a easy surgical and post-op experience. No pain, gas, nausea, vomiting, etc....

Stay positive. No everyone experiences a painful post op period. By week 3 I was back in the gym.

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I'm going to be honest I am scared. My thoughts are consumed with "what ifs" and of the surgery day in and day out. I pray that all goes well and I try to think positive but it's been a challenge. My surgery is December 8th.

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The biggest fear I'm dealing with is not the surgery itself or worrying about if I could do it on my own (because I can't) but the fear of failure. Failure I won't get to my goal weight and the fear of regain, even if I do reach that point. So basically I'm worried about regaining weight I haven't even lost! How messed up is that?

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I started my 2 weeks of liquids today. I am not really hungry as more of it is head hunger than anything. I do have a headache. I believe it is from no caffeine.

I have a very supportive husband. He is doing the shakes with me. He said he doesn't want me to have to go through this alone. (He doesn't need to lose weight). It's very sweet.

I am starting to doubt the surgery. I think it's because it's hard and I am scared. I am just going to take it one day at a time I am upset I let myself get here. I know it's just all in my head and this is what I have fought for for the last 6 months.

Did anyone else feel this way? As I write this I am crying. So many emotions. I had to write them down. This site has been good and this the. sometimes it freaks me out. Any advice or support would be greatly appreciated.

I totally understand how you feel. I'm scheduled for surgery next week. I too have been having second thoughts. However, we've come this far so hang in there and know you are not alone in this journey and the way you feel is completely normal.

Good luck.

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Thank you for your responses. I this might sound horrible but I am glad I am not the only one.

Absolutely. My surgery is Tuesday and I keep thinking "I've done the preop diet just fine, there's no reason I can't lose weight on my own", but I've done it a hundred times and it never stuck.

I'm super scared. I'm afraid of the surgery and the possibility of something happening, and I'm afraid because I can't imagine a life where I'm not overweight even though I desperately want it.

I hope everything goes great for you. Please let me know how it goes. I want it desperately as well. I want my life to change. I have two children and it is hard keeping up with them. I want this for me.

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The biggest fear I'm dealing with is not the surgery itself or worrying about if I could do it on my own (because I can't) but the fear of failure. Failure I won't get to my goal weight and the fear of regain, even if I do reach that point. So basically I'm worried about regaining weight I haven't even lost! How messed up is that?

This is how I feel too. I think of everything and my brain will not shut off. It is driving me crazy! lol

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Reading this made me tear up because it was the exact same thoughts I had.. It does get a little easier but it's tough it's a long process.. I know I have been like this many years so it will take time to recover to my goal ( that's what I keep telling my self) it helps sometimes.. I hope you keep doing great

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I started the pre op diet today, too. It's HARD!! I can totally relate to how you are feeling. But, we can do this! I just ordered myself a Bracelet off Etsy that says...

She believed she could, so she did

We can do this!!!!!!

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I have all of these feelings! My husband is very supportive too but not to the point of doing the shakes with me but that's OK. Just try to hang in there the best you can. You can do this!

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I started the pre op diet today, too. It's HARD!! I can totally relate to how you are feeling. But, we can do this! I just ordered myself a Bracelet off Etsy that says...

She believed she could, so she did

We can do this!!!!!!

That's a great idea. And yes we can do it. It's just really hard! Side note:I am found out that chewing gum as helped a lot today. Sugarless of course!!

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I have all of these feelings! My husband is very supportive too but not to the point of doing the shakes with me but that's OK. Just try to hang in there the best you can. You can do this!

Thanks you too!! And I think my husband probably eats whatever he wants when he isn't around me????

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