Feeing like a failure

[rrr123114 0]

I was sleeved Dec 31, 2014. Have only lost 30 lbs. Still gave same old cravings. Can eat plenty. Don't get full very fast. No will power. Wondering how or why I would have discipline after the sleeve if I didn't have it before the sleeve. Was counting on it to take away cravings, & to not be able to eat as much. I have no problems at all, but am not losing weight...depressed...any suggestions?

Edited November 3, 2015 by rrr123114

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

Congratulations on losing 30 pounds. I don't know about you, but pre-surgery, my metabolism was so wrecked that losing any weight was a miracle.

As you are probably just now figuring out, the sleeve is not a manic surgery. It is a tool to use in conjunction with healthy eating and exercise to help us reach our goals. It doesn't work by itself.

Are you following your surgeon's plan?

Are you getting in all of your Protein and fluids every day?

Are you taking your Vitamins and supplements as directed?

Are you exercising?

Have you met with your NUT lately? What does he or she advise?

Now is a good time to take stock and go back to basics of you aren't happy with your progress.

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

Here is a post I wrote a while back that might help you.

Embrace the Stall!

http://BariatricPal.com/index.php?/topic/351046-Embrace-the-Stall

[CowgirlJane 14,261]

My personal experience is HOW I eat has a huge influence on my hunger, feeling of restriction and in general success.

I know not everyone is open to that idea - but going low carb can really help minimize hunger.

I was sleeved Dec 31, 2014. Have only lost 30 lbs. Still gave same old cravings. Can eat plenty. Don't get full very fast. No will power. Wondering how or why I would have discipline after the sleeve if I didn't have it before the sleeve. Was counting on it to take away cravings, & to not be able to eat as much. I have no problems at all, but am not losing weight...depressed...any suggestions?

[Healthy_life2 8,330]

@@rrr123114

I hate the word failure. You got off track from working your plan. If you willing to get back on the horse. We will be cheering you on. You have lost 30 pounds. You can do this again. you deserve to get the most out of you weight loss surgery.

[Dub 10,022]

[BLERDgirl 6,417]

Have you talked to your nutritionist/doctor?

Do you exercise?

Meet all your protein/fluid goals?

I can only speak from experience. You no longer have as much gherlin, the hunger hormone, however you still have head hunger and the ability to nibble on slider foods. If you do not combat those, yes you can gain. The old adage "it's a tool, not a magic wand" applies here.

@@CowgirlJane is right. What and how you eat matters as much as how much. I don't necessarily practice low carbs, but I try to eat clean, unprocessed carbs. What's a typical eating day for you?

[IncredibleShrinkingMan 437]

What has your exercise pattern been like? It is of co-equal importance as diet. Has your surgeon expressed any concern at your post-op visits or provided any insight into what's going on? That said, 30 lbs is not trivial...that's more than most of us could do with any permanence prior to surgery. Unless I'm missing something, it also doesn't seem like you've lost and regained at any point since surgery, which is a very good thing, so while you may still be slow through the journey, setbacks have not occurred, nor have their metabolism-damaging effects.

To lift your mood a bit, even though I don't think you should be thinking this quite yet, there is always the possibility of a re-sleeve or a conversion to bypass. But it is worth it to make sure there isn't something fundamentally wrong with the surgery or with your dietary approach before heading this way.

[Inner Surfer Girl 12,015]

I am going to have to disagree to a point. A resleeve or bypass is no more magical than a sleeve. If you don't follow the recommended program with the sleeve, getting another procedure doesn't solve anything.

[nailsbyniki 120]

A re-sleeve or God forbid a bypass is definitely a LAST DITCH EFFORT...please do not even think that is an easier way out than just getting back up on your horse!!

[The Candidate 3,215]

What actually is a "resleeve" and in what cases is it done?

[nailsbyniki 120]

It is generally performed according to the usual technique for the laparoscopic sleeve gastrectomy that you first went thru although you should have more fundus from weight regain. So they would remove that again, staple along the suture line just as in the last procedure. I'm not a doctor this is just the very basic of what I have read and it at least alleviates the problems of malabsorption and others that the bypass could bring which I highly discourage. I also discourage this as it brings with it another surgery, more risks and more complications. Please go back to step one and try again! You will thank me later I promise. It's always Protein PROTEIN PROTEIN, and I am the first one to admit that I didn't get all mine in and I'm in a mess now!!!

Edited November 3, 2015 by nailsbyniki

[Babbs 14,681]

If your head isn't in the right place, there is no amount of sleeving, bypassing, banding, revising to bypass, or re sleeving that will do a damn bit of good. Period.

[The Candidate 3,215]

Thanks for the explanation @@nailsbyniki

[NewNewMe 277]

I don't mean to offend you, but I don't think you can be a failure if you haven't even tried. It sounds like you expected the surgery to be a magic cure. You have to follow the plan. Are you tracking what you eat? Try using an app like MyFitnessPal. Are you going to support group meetings? It is not to late to start using your tool. I would go on a Liquid Protein diet reset and then start following your plan. You can do this!