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Hello everyone! :)

I'm 2 and a half weeks post-op and just joined here.

I have a question about going on dates! How can I explain to my date why I am eating so little? Is there anything I can do to seem normal diet-wise?

Thank you!

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Went on a few dates right after surgery. I had explained the whole surgery to him so it wasn't a big deal.

You could also choose no food related dates!

Do you have any suggestions for non food related dates? I really have no clue

Thank you :)

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How about Movies, a museum, Paint Nite, Comedy show, etc.

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Congrats on your surgery! I haven't gone on any dates yet to have any advice but wanted to say welcome to the losing side!

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How about Movies, a museum, Paint Nite, Comedy show, etc.

Thank you, you've been really helpful :)

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@@Daveo Thank you! :)

I've not really had much support before/after the op, i've had so many questions and feel like I don't want to bug my dietician everyday! There aren't many support groups in my local area that seem to be legit? (London) So I hoped that this would be helpful and maybe share some of my experiences.

Your weight loss is amazing! You look great and I wish you well :)

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@@BritishBornBabe this forum is a great resource for just about anything you have questions about. I have come across other forums but I find this one more informative and the members seem to be more active. With my schedule I can't get to any support groups so I rely on this site a lot. I'm so jealous that you are in London! One of my future vacation destinations once I get to goal.

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@Daveo

Yes, this site seemed different to others i've looked at. I feel the same way about America! I'm planning to visit New York next christmas, cannot wait to have my Home Alone 2 moment :D

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@@BritishBornBabe haha Home Alone 2 moment, that's funny, I haven't been to New York either. lol

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Went on a few dates right after surgery. I had explained the whole surgery to him so it wasn't a big deal.

You could also choose no food related dates!

Do you have any suggestions for non food related dates? I really have no clue

Thank you :)

Museum, painting or pottery place, a walk in a park, a concert, ice skating, hiking, an amusement park...

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Hello everyone! :)

I'm 2 and a half weeks post-op and just joined here.

I have a question about going on dates! How can I explain to my date why I am eating so little? Is there anything I can do to seem normal diet-wise?

Thank you!

I dated heavily with my lap band 8 years ago. I am married now. The following is so true: if the date is going great nobody pays attention to what anyone is eating. I would not mention a thing. Order something small with Protein and pick. Honestly before bariatric surgery I was distracted on dates and never ate much anyway. If you date someone for any leg nth of time you can decide.

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