I'm 30 years old and I never really dated. I haven't had weight loss surgery, I'm trying to lose weight on my own without surgery and doing well. I've went from 470 to 430 in about two months. I'm not ready to meet women yet as I wanted to be under 300 before I do that. I'm not sure how to do it. I've always avoided socializing but I feel a big reason I gained so much weight was due to loneliness. I created an online account but didn't add any information or pictures, just wanted to look. I see a lot of women I am interested in but I have no idea how to introduce myself or what I should say. If it progresses to a date I have no idea what to do or where to go on a date. I don't know when I should kiss a woman or request a second date. I feel like I shouldn't need to be figuring this out at 30. This seems like something I should have learned in high school. Is there like a tutorial for this? I feel like it just gets harder to find someone after 30 and throw in the fact I have virtually no dating experience.

Just be yourself and have confidence! The right one comes around when you least expect it and will love you for YOU....not how awesome of a selfie you can take. ((We all know selfies are lame no matter how hot you look in them!)) Don't overthink things. Go with the flow and have fun.

I also went to FSU! Go Noles!

NOLE girls know best!

It's not the quality of pic but just the size. I like how we were able to talk before seeing each other. Hopefully that will help her look past my size.

All you can do is hope. Not to be a cheerleader for your case....but you are working your ass off (literally) trying to make yourself a healthier person. The right girl will see that and appreciate and support you for what you're going through and help you along the way. Think cardio dates, long walks and cooking healthy meals together! What better way to burn calories then with someone you love!?

All you can do is hope. Not to be a cheerleader for your case....but you are working your ass off (literally) trying to make yourself a healthier person. The right girl will see that and appreciate and support you for what you're going through and help you along the way. Think cardio dates, long walks and cooking healthy meals together! What better way to burn calories then with someone you love!?

I don't think he's had the surgery...

Stop focusing on her, you might not like her. Pictures are seriously deceiving!!! I promise it's not a big deal. Go balls to walls man

I know I know......but taking steps in the right direction. Diet...exercise....mental trying to get your head right....deserves kudos no matter what stage we fall in.

I haven't yet - get a date next week. But hell my weight doesn't make me hide...

I haven't yet - get a date next week. But hell my weight doesn't make me hide...

Same same. No reason to hide.

My dates November 10th!

Good luckkkk -

I don't have a weight loss date. I've thought about surgery but I have lost 45 pounds in about 9 weeks so I want to see if I can lose without surgery. If I need it I will get it. I gained 200 pounds in five years. I never really had to deal with this sort of obesity and I'm struggling with my body image.

I ended up uploading my picture to my profile here. I also uploaded what I looked like before. Not going to show her the previous me.

Go for it!!!!

Seems like our conversation fizzled out before pictures were exchanged. We went from emails to texting and it seemed to go downhill. I get the feeling she was hiding something. One of the red flags was that her area code didn't match the city se supposedly lived in.

Area codes don't matter, sometimes people don't want to change their number when they move.

Seems like our conversation fizzled out before pictures were exchanged. We went from emails to texting and it seemed to go downhill. I get the feeling she was hiding something. One of the red flags was that her area code didn't match the city se supposedly lived in.

You have no way of knowing. ..but I would guess she was talking to someone else too....

On to the next one...