I'm 30 years old and I never really dated. I haven't had weight loss surgery, I'm trying to lose weight on my own without surgery and doing well. I've went from 470 to 430 in about two months. I'm not ready to meet women yet as I wanted to be under 300 before I do that. I'm not sure how to do it. I've always avoided socializing but I feel a big reason I gained so much weight was due to loneliness. I created an online account but didn't add any information or pictures, just wanted to look. I see a lot of women I am interested in but I have no idea how to introduce myself or what I should say. If it progresses to a date I have no idea what to do or where to go on a date. I don't know when I should kiss a woman or request a second date. I feel like I shouldn't need to be figuring this out at 30. This seems like something I should have learned in high school. Is there like a tutorial for this? I feel like it just gets harder to find someone after 30 and throw in the fact I have virtually no dating experience.

Good job!!! Have no expectations no disappointment. ???? she is probably more concerned how interested you are in her.

I think we are going to exchange pictures soon. This is the moment I am most nervous about. Our conversations have been going exceptionally well. She likes my corny jokes and there has been a little flirting via email. What should I say about her picture? I would want to tell her she is attractive but not sound like a sexual deviant or that I'm trying to put the moves on her. I'm also worried about sending my pic. I keep wanting to preface it with something.

Tell her she has a great smile... Focus on her eyes and smile.

When you send your pic send one while you are doing something... Like with a bunch of friends cheering on Fsu ( best team ever).

I thought Jews went to UF?

Edited September 27, 201510 yr by stuart85

I don't respond to men's photos. I never know what to say, photos are deceiving as well. Remember she might not be good enough for you, you aren't shopping for pants and willing to buy the pair that fits. You drawn the best!!!! Keep that in mind.

The nice Jewish girls go to UF I went to FSU Hahahaha ????

Hahaha. Hahaha. My brother went to UF. Went to a few games, it was the Tebow days when they regularly dominated FSU

Ohhh and he's doing so well in the nfl - said NO ONE EVER ???? hahaha

When you send your pic send one while you are doing something... Like with a bunch of friends cheering on Fsu ( best team ever).

That's the problem. I never liked having my picture taken so I don't have a picture like that. I also don't have many friends.

When you send your pic send one while you are doing something... Like with a bunch of friends cheering on Fsu ( best team ever).

That's the problem. I never liked having my picture taken so I don't have a picture like that. I also don't have many friends.

Post some on here and we can judge the best one. We are in the same boat, well, close, not exactly. But after losing 76 pounds so far I'm a lot more willing to put myself out there, not ready to go on match or jdate yet but maybe at 100 I will be. I walk around the gym locker room now without a shirt on, I wouldn't do that at 485

When you send your pic send one while you are doing something... Like with a bunch of friends cheering on Fsu ( best team ever).

That's the problem. I never liked having my picture taken so I don't have a picture like that. I also don't have many friends.

Post some on here and we can judge the best one. We are in the same boat, well, close, not exactly. But after losing 76 pounds so far I'm a lot more willing to put myself out there, not ready to go on match or jdate yet but maybe at 100 I will be. I walk around the gym locker room now without a shirt on, I wouldn't do that at 485

That's the thing. I only have one pic of myself I took myself.

When you send your pic send one while you are doing something... Like with a bunch of friends cheering on Fsu ( best team ever).

That's the problem. I never liked having my picture taken so I don't have a picture like that. I also don't have many friends.

Post some on here and we can judge the best one. We are in the same boat, well, close, not exactly. But after losing 76 pounds so far I'm a lot more willing to put myself out there, not ready to go on match or jdate yet but maybe at 100 I will be. I walk around the gym locker room now without a shirt on, I wouldn't do that at 485

That's the thing. I only have one pic of myself I took myself.

bro, take some more, like that one person said i think blu go pretend to do something, i've never been a fan of group pictures, you are going to have to do it sooner or later may as well get judged by a bunch of fatties and ex-fatties first to weed out the bad pictures, personally i don't think i photograph well either but that's because i used to feel like shamu on land

Then see will know you are real, just say I just took this shelfie but I am new at it

You are welcomed to post one and I will tell you honest truth if you want!!! It's really all in your head right with the pic... Remember own it, you are who you are and owe no apologizes.

Just be yourself and have confidence! The right one comes around when you least expect it and will love you for YOU....not how awesome of a selfie you can take. ((We all know selfies are lame no matter how hot you look in them!)) Don't overthink things. Go with the flow and have fun.

I also went to FSU! Go Noles!