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I always have a fear that I won't lose weight...and that I'm eating too much or bad things or I'm doing something wrong and that the surgery is gonna fail for me...it's really giving me anxiety..I feel like I'm going to sabotage myself soon...

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Don't do it! We got this surgery to be free from all that worry. Your body will take care of you if you let it. I'm 10 wks out and I don't measure or stress on anything. I'm over my food obsession. I eat until I'm full and that's it. I've lost 40lbs. You will do this. No more dieting. No more failing. We've got this!!!!!!! Relax and you'll see. ❤️

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Not weighing things and waiting to feel full doesn't work for everyone. I would recommend weighing if you feel like you might sabotage yourself. If you only eat what is on your plate then you will stick to your plan better. I think at some points we are all afraid of failure. This surgery works, look at all the veterans on here. Use them for your inspiration and work your plan. Hopefully as you lose you will begin to inspire yourself also...Good luck!

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@@confusedgirl18 I have spend the majority of my life in that exact same position as you have described and for me, I dont think it will ever go away completely

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It is a demon inside your head that some people just don't understand. Everyone had different ways of dealing with it.

My weight anxiety put my on medication. Which did help, but medication is not for everyone.

First of all my anxiety has simmered down tremendously after I booked my surgery it was like opening a window on a summer's evening. The fresh air just pour in on my life. , it went down even more when I told my family doctor and it went down even more when I told my hair dresser. Sounds weird but the true facT is a woman's hair dresser is also a form of therapy.

My secret for when i want to eat and know that I shouldn't. or when i am roaming the cupboard for a late night snack ... I eat ice cubes. I have an ice maker in my fridge so it makes perfect sized ones. Before then i would just make ice cubes filling the trays up half way. it started when I was pregnant. I didnt want to gain a ton of weight from junk food so I chomped on them when I wanted a bad snack.

I eat about 32 oz of Water a day in ice cubes. I was terrified at my last dentist appointment that all the enamel would be gone off my teeth and my dentist would look at me with those "dentist eyes" but he didnt.

Working on weight anxiety is something that you do have to deal with otherwise it will get completely out of control and take over your brain 24/7. I always feel much better when I come on here and do a rant or a cry for help.

My surgery is scheduled for next week and I have the same nerves about whether or not the surgery will work. But if the surgery didn't work, it wouldn't be so popular and you wouldn't have all these great people on this website supporting your every concern.

Join us on the looser-bench.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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