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Anyone start worrying as you're headed into the final stretch before surgery, whether or not you have the right surgeon and office? There are only two where I live and I've heard horrible things about the other one, but after my pre-op appointment, I'm beginning to worry that the one I chose might not be right for me. It's little things like not seeing the surgeon again for a whole year after surgery ( see the NUT and nurse practitioner every three months), meeting the NP and finding her a bit terse, going into surgery feeling like I don't have my after care questions answered. (I know they'll tell me in the hospital - I hope- but how together am I going to be at that time?!). Love, love, loved my SUR at first, but am feeling like just a number now. Don't know how much is my anxiety and insecurity or how much is because I really need to rethink this.

So excited about all the changes post surgery and simultaneously so worried about them. Anyone else feel totally double minded right before their surgery? ( I have 3 weeks Til bypass. )

Know the emotional roller coaster is somewhat normal but I'm not enjoying the ride! The highs are great, but oh those dips and twists and turns.

Choosinghope as I quake in my metaphorical boots.

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I can understand. Here is what you do...write a list of all of the questions that you have for your surgeon and request an appointment to speak with him about having specific questions that you want to talk to him about. I would want to know those were answered before hand and NOT on the day of surgery. There is way too much going on and people to talk to, too much to remember on a day that is stressful and causing more anxiety. If you do a Q&A session with him, it will help alleviate fears and reduce anxiety. I am excited for you and I am sure it will go smoothly. Those anesthesiologists are good bartenders!!! ;)

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Hmm, your reservations seem warranted. I'm in a position where I see the surgeon every appointment, as well as the nut and the surgeon's wife (his 1st assistant in surgery).

Though I'll say, I wouldn't be put off if I didn't see the surgeon each appointment... I'd be fine with just the other two. Maybe because it's a husband/wife scenario and I know she'll keep him informed. But I know a surgeons job is to cut; after my thyroid surgery I didn't keep seeing the surgeon, I went back to treating with the endocrinologist. Bariatrics is slightly different, the surgeon takes on two roles, but if there is a nurse practitioner on staff I can see not having to see the surgeon. Seems like you're not fond off the nurse practitioner, but maybe you need someone who will keep you on your toes. Since it doesn't sound like you have many options, list out your questions and get an appointment to make sure they get answered, they should all be qualified to answer your questions.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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