Greetings!

After receiving a lap-band a little more than 2 years ago, I have lost about 120 lbs. but, unfortunately, the weight loss is starting to put a strain on my relationship. Specifically, my husband of more almost 11 years thinks I am too skinny (going from 357 - 240 lbs. at 6’ 2”). When we met, I was 300 lbs. I ballooned up to 357, of course had health issues due to weight, got the lap-band, and successfully lost weight and am now down to a healthy weight.

However, my husband no longer finds me physically attractive though he still loves me. I certainly still love him and we continue to enjoy each other’s company but we rarely have sex (maybe once a quarter if I'm lucky). He wants me to gain back up to 300 lbs.

I try to put myself in his shoes and think would I act the same way if he gained 120 lbs. (going tom 170 - 290 lbs.). I think I would still find him hot but it’s a hypothetical situation.

Has anyone else been in this situation before and, if so, what did you do? How did you work out your problems and come to a solution that worked for both of you.

I am so sorry to hear that your husband is having issues with your weight loss. I can't offer you any insight as I've not had this situation myself, but I would say that you need to decide if his request for you to gain the weight back is a deal breaker for the two of you.

Unfortunately, you're in a lose-lose situation..and that I have been in before. I know I went with my gut feelings and more than 20 years later, I've rarely regretted my decision.

Good luck to you and wishing you all the best.