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Livincrimson    20

Livincrimson
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Well, my one year surgiversary was yesterday... and it passed with no one saying anything. Granted not a lot of people know, but my partner... daughter... mother etc... not a word. I've lost over 150 lbs in this last year... and nothing. Hurt my feelings... and I can't say it to anyone, so saying it here... *sigh* makes me sad...

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AngelaWilliamsMD    290

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I'm sorry you feel this way. One thing that I'm beginning to realize is that we are all hypersensitive about weight to some degree. Look at all of the effort we have put into the weight loss surgery and the ongoing journey overall. That just simply isn't the norm for other people.

So, I don't think your family is trying to upset you on purpose. Your surgiversary, is special without a doubt. The first is something that I hope to cherish on Apr 30th, 2016...but I don't want or need their validation when the time comes. I guess what I'm saying is that don't be upset because your family isn't jumping up and down about this. It doesn't mean they don't love you...it's just not on their radar.

I do hope that you will Celebrate your special day if you haven't yet. You've achieved an unremarkable goal that provides inspiration to everyone in the BariatricPal community.

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toasty    371

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Congratulations on your incredible weight loss, and happy surgiversary!

Why don't you mention it to your family and close friends? I agree with @@AngelaWilliamsMD that it is probably not on their radar. I would bet they will be very happy for you and will give you accolades for your hard work.

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Melissa Cotton    7

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I had my surgery in July last year, but to be honest I don't even remember the specific date. I'm sure they are proud and happy about your weightloss, but don't remember the specific date of your surgery.

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foodfighter78    258

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Happy anniversary! This is our bottle, our personal experience, don't get sad if they don't remember the day. We live it so is the most important thing in our life, they don't go thru what we do! ????????????on the loss!

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2006RNYhere    14

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Great job on your new lifestyle. Dont be so hard on yourself. I use my surgiversary for my own personal celebration. It was the day i cared for my self. I actually call mine my selfish-anniversary lol

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Kayzeekat    15

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I know how you feel........I even asked my hubby if he knew what day it was on my one year anniversary.....he had no clue. Yes I was a little disappointed. It was such a big day for me.....

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choosehope    233

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Woo Hoo! Way to go! Throw a party for those closest to you. When they ask what the occasion is say "me! I'm celebrating one amazing year and want to Celebrate it with you," Or have a thank you party - it's been one year since my surgery, and I couldn't have done it without you."

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The Candidate    3,215

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Congrats on your surgiversary!

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Dar200    285

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Wow! Congratulations! I just read your entry and none of the replies because that is an incredible accomplishment! You rock!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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