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Hi,

I'm almost 2 months out from revision to rny. I lost 40 pounds before surgery and 35 pounds post surgery. I have been at a stall for nearly a month and I am really getting down on myself. I get all the right Protein and liquids in, I don't cheat. One problem I do have is not eating enough. Could this be why I am not losing weight?

I have mobility issues that prevent me from doing traditional exercising, but my surgeons PT gave me some exercises I can do in my chair. But I don't think they're doing anything to help.

I'm extremely upset about this stall. I feel like I failed the surgery. I beat myself up every day, while trying to force myself to eat.

Has this happened to anyone else??? I feel alone and would love to hear others' stories. Maybe a month stall is common? I did lose 75 pounds, but it just stopped, dead.

HELP!!!

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PKinneB...I am scheduled for revision surgery in September but have been attending my bariatric support groups since May (three a month). At my last group there was a woman who spoke about her stall. She was doing everything right: sticking to the dietary plan, Water, exercise etc.... She did NOT lose weight for the first THREE months. Her body was holding on to everything it could. Finally, when her body realized she was not starving, she began to lose weight rapidly. (two pounds a DAY) Eventually she leveled out and everything worked out. She is eight years post-op and looks great. Her advice to the group, and mine to you is, do not give up! Ride it out. Do what you need to do, stick to your regime and stay clear of the scale- weigh once weekly if you can.

Keep the faith!

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@@India928

Thank you India, I needed to hear that. THREE months? Wow! I'd go nuts if that happened to me.

So many people say they lose so much in the beginning, and I admit I'm a bit jealous because I am not. But from what you say, it gives me hope at least.

Bless You...

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I went through a 28 day stall in June and then I started losing again following the same plan I was during the stall. Sometimes we lose slower and our bodies just decide to take a break.

The moral of the story is you have to stay the course, the weight will come off.

Good luck and I hope your stall breaks soon.

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I'm going through a stall now at 5 weeks out. I'm upping my Fluid intake and trying to up the exercise. It's frustrating cause I'm following the plan to the letter. Getting in 70-90 Protein a day, under 50 carb. Just pushing through this.

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I hate to see anybody go through a stall. It's so disappointing to look down at that scale and see the same number for weeks, or notice that your pants/tops still feel the same for weeks. I don't like it because I feel like my coworkers are watching me and wondering why I'm not shrinking. I feel self concious. I drink a lot as it is, I just have to eat more to get my metabolism going. I'm eating the right foods, in the right portions but my ability to exercise is limited, but not impossible. I'm walking without my walker and oxygen a lot more! I get lots of support from my coworkers when I do that.

With the stall, I'm just frustrated. I've been losing weight since months before my surgery, now nothing. I want to be mad, but I'd be mad at my self. I have to eat!

I'm rooting for all of you!!! Keep on keepin on! :D

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35 pounds lost in your first month is a lot, I only lost 16 pounds in the first 4 weeks. My revision was on June 20th, 10 weeks today, and I have only lost 28 pounds over that time. Like you I also have a mobility issue, waiting for hip replacement in October and also like you I am sticking to the rules, drinking enough, Protein etc.

It is hard, a lot of revisioners lose slower than on their first surgery. I only lost 4 or 5 pounds sticking to my pre-op diet that I did for 17 days. I put it down to reduced activity etc but it does suck big time.

So, all we can do is keep at it, plod on. Our journey will be longer but hopefully will still get us there.

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I agree with weegie. My surgeon said to expect ~40lb loss in the first 3 months. Of course, this will change per individual depending on how much overall needs to lose, but after your pre-op and one month post-op combined loss maybe your body is just taking some time to adapt, or catch up.

Just stick to the doc's orders, and it'll start coming off again. Have faith, it'll happen! :)

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