Hey everyone, I am new here. I turn 40 tomorrow (how did that happen?) and meet with the surgeon for the first time on Wednesday. I am currently 260isg, 5'2", mommie to two beautiful girls and wife to an amazing guy. The only health issue known is HBP but I am pretty sure we might find more in all this pre-op testing. Has that happened to anyone?

I know my insurance requires a 6 month diet which I have already completed with my PCP. So here's hoping insurance approval doesn't drag on. I have a lot of life to live and don't want to waste any more time!

Very few people know I am looking into this because I want to avoid the peanut gallery comments of "it's about time". Has anyone else dealt with those?

Welcome to the forums! You will find a treasure trove of support and information here. Good luck and best wishes on your journey!

Lol, "It's about time?". That comment would be way too supportive. Here's a sampling of some of the REAL comments people hear:

"Surgery? That's taking the EASY way out"

"Why don't you just try to diet and exercise?"

"My friends sister's best friends aunt had weight loss surgery, and she gained all her weight back"

"I know someone who DIED because of weight loss surgery. And that was AFTER they gained all their weight back!"

Obviously that last one is tongue and cheek, but you get the idea.

My ever supportive mother in law had gastric bypass done 13 years ago and since then has been not so blunt in voicing her opinion that I should get it done. If I could get away with not telling her at all I would.????

Welcome! Wishing you all to best for your surgery and beyond.

I wasn't going to tell people, fearing the exact same thing, peoples not so polite comments but I found myself now telling all kinds of people; family, co workers etc and I have had nothing but support and well wishes.

It is a very personal thing and it is completely understandable your decision not to tell people and ultimately, it really anyone but your business.