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My says she supports me but just told me today I dont need to do that surgery that I just have to stop being greedy like really???I have diabetes sleep apnea plus I had 2 corneal transplants which I need to worry about eye pressure and having rejection my whole life this is one reason I was refered to help wih diabetes, is just sad how people close to me see the struggle and all the health issues and how I try hars and go up and down in weight and still have negative comments!! I am doing this for a healthier me and with support or no support. I will get through all of this life change!!!.....

I meant my mother....

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Perhaps your mother is worried about you and surgery. Perhaps she's concerned you'll change as a person after losing weight. Who knows? This is life altering, and you need to reassure her you'll still love her and need her after you follow through getting your life and health in order. I hope you have a friend or family member who is supportive so you won't feel alone in your journey. This might be an issue you'll want to tell your doctor or psychologist and get their professional opinion. Meanwhile, stick with it and good luck!

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@@ylluz - do the surgery for yourself and NO ONE else! its your life, your knees, your back, your diabetes....

NO Regrets!

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I think there is a lot of misunderstanding about bariatric surgery in general. I found the idea of the sleeve to be very barbaric when I had my first consult. The permanence of it made it very scary for me as well. Maybe take your mom along for your next appointment? Best of luck to you.

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@slvarltx- mom goes with me to all my pre-op and I talk to her and she knows many that had the sleeved I guess she is also nervous since the day is getting closer. Thank you for the support????

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Maybe she is nervous, but greedy is a harsh word. I would have a deep conversation about why this is not about being greedy, but this is about utilizing what is available and becoming a healthier person and thus extending your life. I hope things get easier. I went through a similar situation with my husband for several months and within the last month he has become one of my biggest supporters, so there is hope :D **hugs**

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@@ylluz - I almost did the lap-band for my adult daughter to eliminate her worries about forever changing my guts. I went with my "gut" and have the sleeve. WLS has to be all about your decision, your happiness, your life....

good luck!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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