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I'm wondering if it's feasible to have lapband surgery without telling my co-workers. I'm tentatively scheduled to have it 7/27, and I would really prefer to keep it to myself for at least the first few months. Will it be obvious when I eat lunch with them as far as the way I'll eat? A group of us always eat together, and sometimes we bring in meals to share. I'd really appreciate anything anyone call tell me as to how I can keep this private. It's not really that I'm embarrassed, I just feel like they'd be watching every bite I eat, and I can do without the attention.

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Hi alex10,

It could come up when your on the full liquid stage. you drink Protein Drinks for lunch at least I did. But you can always say your trying them out. pureed Soups also When you get to pureeds you can eat a lot more but again its obvious. I would just take a walk and not be around others eating or go to your car and eat. I've done that too. Its a challenge but you can do it. Good Luck to you on your Journey. sj

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Tell them u r on a "cleansing" diet.

When they want ALL the details, tell them you want to just concentrate on getting healthier and change the subject . Have a subject in mind . They should get the hint.

I do not agree with keeping it a secret. I think it will lead to problems for you.

edie

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I have told my family but few people at work. However, I am able to not have to eat with others which is a blessing. If people ask about my wt. I just say "eating less, walking more". Down the line when your band is tighter and you have the experience of not being able to eat at certain times of the day or with certain foods (which is different for all of us) it may be uncomfortable for you to be in a crowd, because those times are not predictable and can happen unexpectedly. If you can't change you work culture, meaning the lunch hour, then you are right all the attention will be on what you are eating;lossing etc. Good Luck, Aunt Em

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Alex10, You will just eat smaller quantities. I think the most difficult part is the post op diet. You will have to be on liquids first then mushy then solid. That may be the most obvious part. Good luck.

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I never told anyone at work, but I only eat in the lunchroom on occasion, so it isn't so obvious. At first it will be hard, but once you are on solids, you can pretty much eat the same, just less. Best of luck to you.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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