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@@TexasGirl86 sounds like time for a new shrink to me;-)

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I am really very open about it. I have pretty much told everybody. Most people ask questions about what I can and cannot eat, how often I can eat, how much I can eat. Everyone has been supportive.

I have only had one person who sorta tried to talk me out of it. However, she had lost her husband unexpectedly due to a massive heart attack at a fairly young age only a few months before. She was genuinely concerned about me having the surgery and the risks that come with anesthesia and major surgery. She was the first one to offer to be my walking partner once she understood I was not changing my mind and that I had done the research.

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Honestly you already know who will be supportive and who won't be. You know who is in your life and can hopefully accurately gauge their reactions. I told my immediate family because I knew they would supportive, I told a handful of friends and there are 2 I knew would be against it and of course I was right. I told only 3 co-workers and no one else at work they were extremely supportive even getting me a card on my first day back to work with a gift card for all the new clothes I will need. So all that to say go with your gut, you know who can depend on and who you can't.

Your co-workers are so sweet.

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Your co-workers are so sweet.

I agree! That's the first time I've ever heard of that. Shows great affection.

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.@@TexasGirl86 @@VSGAnn2014 I definitely lucked out with those group of girls. It's great to have that support.

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These are pretty old posts and I am SURE ya all are doing great! I am getting my sleeve in Feb. 2016 and I am excited and very nervous too. I am nervous about what to say to work and my coworkers, I need to say something and honestly when I DO lose the weight maybe I will say something than but to hear all the garbage before the surgery I just don't want to deal with that. So any ideas PLEASE are welcome!

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These are pretty old posts and I am SURE ya all are doing great! I am getting my sleeve in Feb. 2016 and I am excited and very nervous too. I am nervous about what to say to work and my coworkers, I need to say something and honestly when I DO lose the weight maybe I will say something than but to hear all the garbage before the surgery I just don't want to deal with that. So any ideas PLEASE are welcome!

I didn't tell people at work. I just said I needed surgery and had to take off 2 weeks. Once I got back and they saw what I was eating and that I had already lost weight some of them picked up on it. Others I told after I had lost a significant amount of weight and they were curious.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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