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You know your option if you don't want to continue, you can also carry a child after a sleeve. It's a tough decision.

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Your judgement makes me sick.

Guess what? It's none of your damn business what she decides to do. It's ultimately her and the father's decision. Not mine. Not yours.

She needs support right now. Not self righteous judgement.

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Oh so I can't have an opinion. There is a reason they invented birth control. So sorry I can't support someone who was so careless, and then just acts like the pregnancy is a nuisance. It's not my judgement she needs to worry about.

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Oh so I can't have an opinion. There is a reason they invented birth control. So sorry I can't support someone who was so careless, and then just acts like the pregnancy is a nuisance. It's not my judgement she needs to worry about.

Your "opinion" doesn't matter. Nobody cares. She needs support. Whatever she decides to do.

But thanks for playing.

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Oh so I can't have an opinion. There is a reason they invented birth control. So sorry I can't support someone who was so careless, and then just acts like the pregnancy is a nuisance. It's not my judgement she needs to worry about.

This thread isn't about you or your beliefs. Haters back off.

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move on to another post no one said you have to read or reply to a post.

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Do what is best for you, no judgement here.

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Well if someone posts on a public forum maybe they should be prepared for the good and the bad. Stop trying to be a bully just because someone doesn't agree with your opinion

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is that what your parents told you your whole life is that your opinion doesn't matter, Babbs?? Is that why you are a bully to those who disagree with you?

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Thank you everyone for your opinions and support as well, I honestly did not make a decision when I posted this, I simply stated that Im not too fund of keeping the child. Ms jadyn, everyone has their own beliefs there were mixed reviews on the situation the only reason you stuck out so much was for your choice of words of this is sickening to you. I have not figured out what is the best course of action yet but I have spoken to my Obgyn and she has told me either route I take would be safe which was very reassuring. Thank you all for your opinions. I wrote this post because I honestly have no support and I thought turning to my "bariatric family" seeing how hard it is when some of us have little to no support when it came down to the decision of getting surgery, would be a little more understanding and a lot less judgmental. If I wanted to be bashed about being pregnant I would have told my entire family and let them crucify me themselves. As I stated before I'm still weighing my options because this is an extremely delicate situation so thank you for your input I do value your time

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You make a personal attack on me about the way my parents raised me, and then call ME a bully? Gotcha.

It's too bad you don't have the same amount of compassion for people already born and living on this earth as you do for the unborn.

But that's typical of your kind.

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@@jaterika

Take care. I hope you get the support and love you need to make the best decision possible.

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So today I took a test and it came out positive...... I'm 3 weeks post and apparently I conceived the week before my surgery. I am beyond scared and I honestly don't want to keep the child I have a 1 year old as it is. Just in the mist of a storm right now

Thinking of you hang in there, get lots of advice and do what's right for you

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@@jaterika

I am very sorry to hear you don't have the support you need - and you did the right thing to reach out here. Wishing you the very best during this difficult time. Having the surgery is plenty of emotional work already.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion, but not to lash out at you. Take your time and continue to let your body and mind heal.

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this is a difficult situation all around. we, her bariatric family, need to remember she needs to talk (post). she has spoke to her OB/Gyn and has to make the decision based on HER beliefs/needs. she posted here because the pregnancy went undetected pre-op. she also has to consider the 1 y/o that needs their mommy and we don't know her entire situation regarding her personal life. we need to make sure she is seeking professional help/guidance and not making ANY decision too quickly without considering her options.

just saying~

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