*what advise can you give to couples*

[Healthy_life2 8,330]

You all have herd of the high divorce rate with weight loss surgery. I just want others to know this can be a wonderful thing in your relationship.

I would love to hear what challenges you have had in your relationship that involved weight loss surgery. Also any advice on ways to help get over these situations that come up.

Include your partner. Have them come to a meeting. Ask them to join you on a walk. They may say no. But its the fact you asked. You are doing new things without them. They may be feeling left behind.

Reassurance. Insecurity was a big issue in my relationship. His thought was if I received compliments I was going to leave. As ridiculous as this sounded to me. I needed to validate what was going on with him and give him that reassurance.

Date night: Many of us are in the daily grind of work and home. A dinner date out is a great option. You can get into better conversations without distraction. Also before you know it you are acting like teenagers again.

Couples goal rewards: Make some of your small goal rewards couples rewards. My favorite one was a trip to Victoria secret. As old as we are we had a good laugh and did not care about the people around us. It a good thing for us.

[AussieSam 234]

Actually it has not had any effect at all with me and wife we are the same now as we were before surgery.

[Mstdst13 23]

Married 28 years and my husband has been great. We just keep the communication lines open and he is very respectful of the food choices I need to succeed and I am not critical of his choices and he enjoys his treats. The best thing is how much both of us are enjoying each other, my weight was unknowingly hurting our marriage since I was unhappy about myself and felt so unhealthy.