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When did you start having sex again

jamieq

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jamieq    310

jamieq
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How long after surgery did you have sex?

Any positions to try or avoid as I heal?

I am only two weeks out

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Miss Mac    6,262

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TMI for the faint of heart.......

One month ( but I am old) maybe sooner for you if you are younger.

Doggie style worked for me, with pillows supporting my belly. That way there was no weight on me, and the pillows held my belly still so it wouldn't flop around. OH......I love this forum. Happy nookie to you. ;)

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Bluesea71    698

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Me: " I promised my Husband that I would ask you when we were allowed to have intimate relations again after surgery."

Surgeon: (with a chuckle and a smile) "You can have sex as soon as you feel up to it."

My personal experience: we waited about a week but I had a really easy recovery ????

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dhrguru    1,238

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We waited a week and a half. Missionary was better initially, with his weight not fully on me.

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Hopscotch    57

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It has been a month for us, simply because my recovery has been absymal at best. I also read somewhere that women are especially fertile after the sleeve? Does anyone know if this is true/have you heard the same? I keep forgetting to ask my surgeon during my post-op appointments lol

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roundisashape    712

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What is this "sex" thing of which you speak?

I really need a boyfriend, lol.

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SlimJill    291

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Currently I don't have a boyfriend so not really an issue for me, but I know when I tried solo 1 week after that it actually hurt to orgasm. Like my whole body must contract during an orgasm because my abdomen was hurting bad.

But only a few days later everything felt fine and didn't hurt. B)

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PinkPolkadot619    337

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we waited 11 days but with out his body weight on me. And any time you loose weight we become very fertile BE CAREFUL!! there are no safe days, as our bodies are adjusting we might ovulate early or late or lord only knows. I am 7.5 months out and are still using condoms every time.

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Hopscotch    57

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we waited 11 days but with out his body weight on me. And any time you loose weight we become very fertile BE CAREFUL!! there are no safe days, as our bodies are adjusting we might ovulate early or late or lord only knows. I am 7.5 months out and are still using condoms every time.

Crap. My poor boyfriend lol. We don't like condoms and we both don't want kids, so this extra fertility thing is a problem. I'll have to discuss it further with my surgeon and my OBGYN.

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bellabloom    2,469

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Hahahaha. Since having surgery I can't stop wanting sex! Shhhh. I went a little crazy. Hahahaha

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Daisy0818    20

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My husband had the same concern .. lol .. and me too

Cause after his surgery we waited a few days but I was on top cause of his incisions. .

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julsofthenile    8

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I waited 2 weeks and was careful. But I tell you sex has been so frickin good I'm in heaven.

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