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Am I doing it right? ...it has to come off...right? laughing at myself



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I keep questioning myself. I have seen these threads and I understand the doubt.

I am sticking to the plan- drinking lots of Water, dialed back my walking to 3 days a week once I realized that more than that just now may have been partly responsible for a stall- - and eating on plan.

I expected to lose more early on (I'm 23 days out and about 15 pounds down) and I know everyone is different. I keep telling myself that if I do as I'm told the weight will come off...but I am besieged by all the past dieting attempts when I lost some and stalled or lost some but couldn't keep it off.

I catch myself thinking like this and say "I know it has to come off, does't it?"

I have a small sleeve where my stomach used to be...I made the mistake of eating too much cottage cheese once but too much equals 2 spoonfuls more of something that is 90calories for a half a cup and I can't even eat a half a cup. So it has to come off...right?

The 30 pound mark and 50 pound mark and 100 pound marks seem so far away. I can see the people in my life who know looking at me and not seeing anything yet. I tell myself slow and steady wins the race..but there are times like this moment where I start wondering...and only really because of my failures before. All I can do is keep doing and laugh at these nuerotic moments...but it'd be nice to know I'm not the only one who has been there.

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I lost 15lbs the first week and a half and then nothing for probably a month. I was about to have a psychotic break. No one on this site could make me feel any better about it. But amazingly, one day I started losing again. It was never as fast as the first three weeks but it was pretty steady. And in the months since, I've never had a stall that lasted as long as that first one. And if I did, I'd probably go crazy again. (so please, when it does, be prepared to talk me off the ledge).

My point is, yes, you will start losing weight again and this will be a distant memory. Hang in there.

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I'm in the same boat. Sleeved 3-24-15 lost 12 pounds in a week then nothing for 3 weeks and then 7 more pounds and nothing since then. I'm going into 2 months and only 19 pounds- psychic is an understatement. I called the doctor and they say I should lose on average 10lbs/mo. But what am I not doing that these other people have lost 40+ pounds in the same timeline ????

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Patience, Grasshopper. It's not a race.

You're not even a month out! Embrace your new lifestyle and it will come off. See my stats? I've lost 68lbs in almost 9 months. That's VERY slow by WLS standards. Sure I've been frustrated at times, but I just stick with the program, keep doing what I need to do, and now I'm 17lbs to goal.

If it takes me another 9 months to get there, so be it. I'm so over stressing about it.

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@@no1noze perhaps you are not as large as those who lost the 40+ pounds.

Sorry still figuring out this ap.

I may not have been - the issue I've always had is my weight and size don't match. So I'm 230, 5'7.75" and I'm in a size 12. My mom is 5'7" and a size 12 but weighs 190.... I would like my body and weight to get on the same page. Ideally I'd like to not be 200+ pounds anymore

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I totally understand the feeling, thinking of the past attempts and disappointments. But yes, it will come off and it's not a race. I haven't lost any weight this week but I tried on about 15 pairs of pants today that are way too big, it felt great to put those in a pile to get rid of! As long as you stick to your plan it will happen. Happy thoughts!!

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So nice reading all these responses first thing in the morning! Thank you all. As usual you all are just what the doctor ordered. :D

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