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Thank you all!! So much. I had stopped crying, then laughed and cried when I read your comments. A friend/co-worker came over to visit me so I had to straighten up and not show her my tears. And my dad called as well. So your feedback, my friend, and my father have kept my emotions at bay! THANK YOU!! This goes to show that I need all the support I can get when I feel down like this. Unfortunately, I don't have a constant local support system here. I'm from Boston but live alone in Colorado. My family and friends are so far away. I have a few friends here, but we're not that close (emotionally) for me to cry on their shoulders. And they have no idea that I have had the sleeve surgery.

I definitely need a support network :-(. Just talking (crying and typing) it out to you and reading your responses made me feel good and that these feelings are not abnormal. I WILL be reaching out to you when I need help! I appreciate you all :)

Check with some of the surgical weight loss programs in your area. Most have support groups that are open to anyone. These are a great place to meet others going through what you are in person and make some new friends for support. And yes, the post-op "crazies" are a thing. I cried a the drop of a hat for months, (mine were happy tears, but still NOT normal for me). I'm usually pretty stoic and losing control like that was very disconcerting! It passes!

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I never had an emotional surge post-op. I have to wonder if it's because of my premature menopause. I am sorry to hear how rough some of you all have it.

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I had a breakdown as you call it too. But I was about two months out. I know it feels like you will never get over this nervousness and worry, but you will. As everyone says, it will get better. I believed no one when they told me that. I thought I'd never feel better. I didn't expect this kind of thing to happen either. I knew "depression" could happen, but not a nuclear meltdown. I'm getting better and you will too! I will be thinking of you and praying for you!

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Being on the far side of post-menopause, I did not have the emotional surge, either, but I did have significant issues with anxiety - enough that my surgeon double my anxiety/depression meds. I just recently (after my first year) was able to come off that one. At fifteen months, I am off seven pre-op meds I was taking (and have two blood pressure meds reduced) and am just having my daily supplements.

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I'll see you on the 16th with our nut (Jennifer) plus before that with follow up visit to Dr. Brown.

While we wait we can go share a Water. ;)

Monument isn't close but I can drive if you need a visit before then?

Hang in there girl, sometimes crying is a good thing.

PMJ

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I'll see you on the 16th with our nut (Jennifer) plus before that with follow up visit to Dr. Brown.

While we wait we can go share a Water. ;)

Monument isn't close but I can drive if you need a visit before then?

Hang in there girl, sometimes crying is a good thing.

PMJ

That would be great! We can meet midway (downtown downtown Denver?) if you'd like .

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My advice is to take a deep breathe, get a cup of Water and read success stories and cruise through before and after photos. Every one of those success stories had doubts too...and just look at us now. :)

I don't know, but I just started crying! I'm worried that I won't lose any weight. I'm worried that I'm not drinking enough Water, or drinking enough food. I'm worried that I'm going to fail. I just had surgery on 3/30/15 and I keep feeling as if it's not going to work for me. Why? I don't know. I just feel like I'm going to be unhealthy for the rest of my life. I don't know why I'm crying. I'm just really down.

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@@Tanika81

How are you feeling today?

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@@Tanika81

I felt the same way and I have read lots of posts on this forum about the dreaded feeling of failure. Its becasue you have tried so many things and failed so many times before. We are stuck in the perpetual trap of murphys law. We think "Whatever can go wrong will go wrong". Its a lie we tell ourselves. You will succeed. You will be fine and you will overcome this feeling of dread. We will all preservere. Take life by the ass and run with it!

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Good Morning! @@Babbs I'm feeling good. I can't say great but definitely much better than a few days ago. I'm looking forward to improving as time goes on! Thank you for asking! I definitely appreciate all of the support I have received.

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@@Tanika81

Good :D

It just takes time. Hang in there!

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I went thru menapause 18 yrs ago and even that long ago now at 50 I am 10 months PO and my first 4 wks were brutal for me I swung from tears, fits, irritable to down right b*****...hang in there. when I went through the 4th wk it all stopped. I had fought through the worst carb cravings also during this time. I hope your feeling better today :) xx

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Hang in there. I myself have been emotional as well. I believe our hormones are all crazy after surgery. Think positive believe you will do. You will have your ups and downs but you will be successful.

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I went thru menapause 18 yrs ago and even that long ago now at 50 I am 10 months PO and my first 4 wks were brutal for me I swung from tears, fits, irritable to down right b*****...hang in there. when I went through the 4th wk it all stopped. I had fought through the worst carb cravings also during this time. I hope your feeling better today :) xx

Well there goes that theory. I went through menopause 10 years ago. VSG has been pretty easy for me. No emotional issues at all.

@Tanika81 - Hang in there. Hopefully things will continue to gradually improve.

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I don't know, but I just started crying! I'm worried that I won't lose any weight. I'm worried that I'm not drinking enough Water, or drinking enough food. I'm worried that I'm going to fail. I just had surgery on 3/30/15 and I keep feeling as if it's not going to work for me. Why? I don't know. I just feel like I'm going to be unhealthy for the rest of my life. I don't know why I'm crying. I'm just really down.

I was sleeved 2/3. I have gone through several stalls since then, one lasting 3 weeks. OUCH!!! I get depressed every-so-often, as well. In fact, I told my husband that I guess I was done loosing! But then, the next day, I'll loose 3 lbs. It will work...MAKE it work for you.

Good luck to you!!!

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