I failed myself yet again...

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Waking up today, I cant believe I backed out and am back to trying to lose weight on my own again..I feel insane cause the definition of insanity is repeating the same process over and over again and expecting different results... Like I said, I failed myself again..Im having non buyers remorse now..

Reschedule it for 6 months out and take that time to think, get counseling, try to do it on your own, whatever you need. You will only fail yourself if you do something you are not ready for.

As for getting rid of something "God put there for a reason"? (No disrespect, just a quote.) If your appendix burst, you'd remove it. If your gall bladder went bad, you'd remove it. If your wisdom teeth came in, you'd remove them. I grew a freaking brain tumor the size of a lemon, I removed it. Well, my surgeon did.

If your heart was sick, you'd fix it. If your kidneys were failing, you'd fix it. Your stomach is failing you. Fix it.

[VSGAnn2014 12,992]

Yeah, I'm not buying that God made my stomach thing either.

If you object to WLS, that's fine. Totally your right.

But dude, that's a lame argument.

[LivingFree! 478]

I went through the same mental agony (big time) about modifying the "original design" of my body. It's a big reason I chose sleeve over RNY (somehow I could justify it easier in my mind to not do the radical rerouting with RNY???). The way I found peace with my decision to go ahead is that my God was ok with me taking advantage of this awesome medical procedure now available that would enable me to dramatically improve my health and lifestyle for the rest of my life. For me, to be able to fulfill my spiritual purpose on this earth requires that my body and mind be healthy, and if I needed "artificial" help to do that, then so be it.

Are you clear in your mind why you only want to lose 40 pounds?

Another point you might want to think about--although there are many people who are living successfully with the LapBand, please make sure you do your exhaustive research about it vs. sleeve. There are growing numbers of people who are finding it necessary to revise their LapBands to the sleeve or RNY.

Keep talking here and you will find your answer. . .

[JerseyJules 862]

I also was considering the lap band originally. The thing that made me back out the most was the whole "permanency" of the whole process...I just could not bring myself to go through with it. Im going back to him next week to discuss what happened and discuss the band as an option that psychologically might help me better.

I think i rushed the process and when it was time to pay the piper, I got cold feet..I need to be 100% on board mentally to do something like this, I was 50% on board..I need to know for myself that:

A-I absolutely can not do it on my own.

B- surgery is my only option..

Edited January 13, 2015 by JerseyJules

[CountryGirl5584 115]

Everything happens for a reason...don't sweat it. Rethink your decision...only you can make the decision

[LivingFree! 478]

You might want to ask yourself this--the lapband is major surgery too. Why would you want to do ANY type of WLS only "temporarily?" Why would it make you feel better if you could remove the lapband? The only reason people do that is if there are complications with it and they are medically forced to.

[JerseyJules 862]

You might want to ask yourself this--the lapband is major surgery too. Why would you want to do ANY type of WLS only "temporarily?" Why would it make you feel better if you could remove the lapband? The only reason people do that is if there are complications with it and they are medically forced to.

But the lap band can be reversed if your not dealing with it well. The sleeve is a one and done deal. There is no going back if you have complications. Im just so afraid about the sleeve option for me where I think I would feel more comfortable just knowing I can go back if I choose to. Also I would assume the complications for the lap band are far less worse than the complications from the sleeve. Im guess temporary was a bad choice of words, but "reversible" is what I should have said.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

You're definitely not ready. You made the right choice.

[JerseyJules 862]

You're definitely not ready. You made the right choice.

I completely agree..

[BitterSweet* 835]

@@Lipstick Lady, Agreed.

@@JerseyJules, the complications with the Band are indeed great; they just don't work which is why so many surgeons simply won't do them anymore. Who would want to have WLS and not lose weight? Nobody.

I think you definitely made the right choice in backing out and you don't have to justify that choice with anyone but the person who stares back at you in the mirror. We're all here to support each other and if you do end up changing your mind, you're entitled to do so and we will be here to support you.

[JerseyJules 862]

@@Lipstick Lady, Agreed.

@@JerseyJules, the complications with the Band are indeed great; they just don't work which is why so many surgeons simply won't do them anymore. Who would want to have WLS and not lose weight? Nobody.

I think you definitely made the right choice in backing out and you don't have to justify that choice with anyone but the person who stares back at you in the mirror. We're all here to support each other and if you do end up changing your mind, you're entitled to do so and we will be here to support you.

I have to disagree that the bands dont work. Just like the sleeve they are only a tool. If you combine a tool with your other tools they will work together. WLS regardless of type is only as successful with compliance. Right now I want to work on compliance so if and when I decide on WLS its only another tool added and not a literal shock to my system..

[BitterSweet* 835]

@@JerseyJules, thanks for the education but LapBands do in fact have a high failure rate that is unrelated to compliance.

FYI: Being compliant with nutritional guidelines will not prevent a LapBand from slipping; eroding, breaking; adhering to one's liver; port site infections......shall I go on? None of the things I listed have anything to do with someone not eating Protein dense meals as required following WLS. They are just very common complications of having a device that's capable of migrating even when you vomit.

Also, I don't need the education about LapBands because I researched them for over two years; more people than not have complications from them. How do I know? I'm a registered nurse at a tertiary hospital that's also a Bariatric Center of Excellence and I work in PACU. Every single day that I work I have no less than one patient having a band revision surgery, or band removal due to infection, failure, or erosion. Every single day.

I'm not here to debate with you, I am here to support you and others; and if you were so sold on a LapBand (enough to educate me on it), then you'd be post-op right now.

It is ok to be unsure. You did the right thing backing out and once again..........you owe no one but yourself an explanation and the benefit of more education and research. We all owe that to ourselves. You're the one who will have to live with your choice, not any of us. Good luck to you on your weight loss journey. I sincerely mean that.

[ProjectMe 909]

Just to add: the military will no longer perform lap band surgery. Their reasons are the complications outweighed the benefits in far too many patients to justify. There were a number of patients in my orientation class there to have their bands converted to sleeves or bypass...which from my understanding is automatically approved with or without complications (on base).

I'm not trying to convince you from not getting the band...just sharing.

Edited January 14, 2015 by ProjectMe

[cabakarich 2]

I had my sleeve done through Kaiser Permanents and they don't do lapbands anymore because of the complications their patients have had. Your body is eventually going to reject any foreign material you put in it and I personally don't want to have surgery twice. You're not a failure. You're a very strong person for being able to recognize you weren't ready.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

**** Please do not turn this into an anti band discussion. Everyone has been kind, respectful and civil so far, but this is not heading down a road BP supports.

We support ALL WLS procedures. It's an individual choice. @@Alex Brecher, the founder of this site, has had great success with the band. This is NOT a WLS debate.

If you have any concerns about my statement, please check our community guidelines. Thank you. ****

Edited January 14, 2015 by LipstickLady