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Amazing post. I am only 3 days post-sleeve but, identify with every word you wrote and everything you felt. Thank you very much for sharing.

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I'm having surgery for health reasons... I want to live. I hadn't really even thought about physical appearance until I read this post. I guess because I was born fat and have been fat all of my life, fat is all I know. It will be interesting to see how I cope with sagging this and that everywhere but in my mind it can't be worst than dealing with fat and the teasing and harassment that goes with that all of my life. At the end of the day if I just get to live so I can have a nice long healthy and enjoyable retirement from work (5 years and counting :) ) I'm going to be a happy camper. Maybe I can scrounge up money for skin removal surgery later down the road it bothers me too much. I love your prose, good luck with working through your demons.

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And Beta98 I love your post,and the fact this stream is back out in public. The OP spoke to me as well as you, I have a lot,of the "I Wonders" that she did, I think,we all do. I suspect. as I get smaller, and it is starting even though i am a "slow'-losing "presurg . I say to myself once, I'm put on all,liquids, I'll speed up. Still,may not too fast, post- menopausals are pokey at that. I find myself angry that some of the men who wouldn't to give me a second glance before now are friendly, perhaps,they are only picking up,on my new confidence, but irrationally I seethe inside.😬 Maybe as more pounds leave I'll come to terms with their response, who knows? I have spent so many years being the pudgy buddy, could I actually be desirable? All,I know for certain, surgery and the further weight loss are going,on the surface, to change my appearance, can the inner "me" cope with the change? Stay tuned my friends, this could get interesting.😁 And I will not be a sleever but have a bypass but most everything else will hold true for me. Stick around, okay?

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On ‎4‎/‎28‎/‎2018 at 6:24 PM, Frustr8 said:

And Beta98 I love your post,and the fact this stream is back out in public. The OP spoke to me as well as you, I have a lot,of the "I Wonders" that she did, I think,we all do. I suspect. as I get smaller, and it is starting even though i am a "slow'-losing "presurg . I say to myself once, I'm put on all,liquids, I'll speed up. Still,may not too fast, post- menopausals are pokey at that. I find myself angry that some of the men who wouldn't to give me a second glance before now are friendly, perhaps,they are only picking up,on my new confidence, but irrationally I seethe inside.😬 Maybe as more pounds leave I'll come to terms with their response, who knows? I have spent so many years being the pudgy buddy, could I actually be desirable? All,I know for certain, surgery and the further weight loss are going,on the surface, to change my appearance, can the inner "me" cope with the change? Stay tuned my friends, this could get interesting.😁 And I will not be a sleever but have a bypass but most everything else will hold true for me. Stick around, okay?

I will, stick around for me too. I'm on a long plan months of dieting first, then weeks of counseling, preop diet and finally surgery... but it gives me time to work through what life will be like after its done

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And you will shine, brighter and prettier than Haileys Comet. The world🌏 now belongs to you😛

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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