Hi I know there would be changes with myself family and friends but wow, I am truly seeing jealousy with my once thought best friends, they are acting hurt and mad that I have lost weight making statements that I am making them feel insecure with my weight lost and I even had one say it was my fault that her boyfriend and her got into a fight and broke up WTF. I told them all my weight lost is no reflection on them but a reflection on me being healthy there insecurities are their own and their own alone, I am not responsible for other peoples action or ignorants, but I am not apologizing to anyone regarding me being healthy. True friends love you and accept you uncondtional and if they can not accept that then I am better off without them. I guess they feel I am competition to them because I am getting all of the attention and they are not go figure. My husbands just says baby forgot those haters but it hurts that they truly feel this way. But positive speaking I have met new friends at he gym and they are great.

Edited December 28, 201411 yr by Cupcake

Your best friends are anything but. It,s good you know that now. If it's anything like what I witnessed, they probably felt no threat from you. You actually made them feel better about themselves. But now they are concerned that you might be even thinner and prettier than them and they don't like it. So, stay with your new friends who know you for who you are becoming and leave the others in the dust! Only your husband and them matter anyway. Keep up the work, and stay true to yourself, no one else.

Happy and thin New Year!

Maggie0210

Maggie0210 you are so right thank you for your support and kind words, I'm staying focus , learning to enjoy life , and I have ever right to be healthy and make my health a priority to myself and my family because as you stated they are who matter and true friends would understand that and only want the best for me as I for them.

Edited December 28, 201411 yr by Cupcake

I've lost friends. I've become more passionate about stuff I love. I was mouthy before. lol. but now Im not afraid. Idk what it is. Maybe its because I was the walking mat for so many years and now im changing myself. They didnt like it so I told them to kick rocks. I have more people in my corner than I thought.

You have the right attitude! It's for you, and.you alone. Get rid of those ungrateful people and move forward. Glad I could support you.

I have found my coworkers in my unit are envious of my weight loss. They act like I have been given special treatment or something. I ignore them but I can feel the resentment. Is this normal behavior?

LisaCo yes it is they do not know how to handle your new change, people who I thought were my friends were not, they are now treating me different instead of being happy that I am getting healthy they are haters and blaming me for their insecurities, it was ok that I was the fat one in the group that they had no competition , now they see me as a threat because I am getting so much attention and being notice. Hang in there you will meet new positive people and ignore the stupid ones remember you do not have to apologize to anyone for being healthy.

Samantha Ann you are so right I guess going through life trying not to be noticed and now you are the focus of everyones attention . I agree with your statement I am really vocal now and will not let anyone use me as a doormat. I have the '' in-crowd'' inviting me to their function and including me in things now but I decline, although my body has changed I have not forgotten how they mistreated and ignored me when I was heavier. So I am now enjoying my new friends who like me for me and support my weight loss and dedication for me being healthy.

I've lost only those who never were friends to begin with. That's my perspective.

One lost 95 pounds on her own and I supported her the whole way. Ww, Zumba etc. I gained weight while providing this support

And she couldn't support me in this.

Oh well

Jersrose43 I like your statement that they were never friends in the first place, I am now looking at what our friendships was truly based on and now see it for what it is, she was never truly my best friend I was hers but she was not mine. As you stated above a friend supports one another through thick and thin, not when its convenience or to soot ones self. My weight made her feel better about herself and now that it is gone she does not feel great anymore, her lost.

That's right cupcake. Friendships evolve with us. That she didn't evolve with you is quite telling of who was a friend and who was not

Jersrose43 you are so right well said.

You definitely see who will stick by you during the change of your life. It's heart breaking but at least you know who will be there when times get tough and change happens. Drinking has been an issue for me. I can't go out all night and drink like that anymore and lost many friends because of it. Now it's time to make new friends with the new you and build relationships with your new life style.

Fu%# those bit$&es.

. Weight is a touchy subject. Kinda like politics or abortion. Our instinct is to scream it from the rooftops that we have lost weight and our doing great but it's better I think just to smile and let it be. Remember how much it hurt when you were overweight to see someone else success where you had failed?

Sometimes friends just grow in different directions. It's a hard part of life. I'm sorry your going through this.

Belbloom lol your so right , I'm moving on and their still there , they are the ones who have a problem with my weight lost not me I'm enjoying life and I don't have to apologize to them or anyone for wanting to be healthy .

I remember three years ago when my best friend had rny and my weight was just going up. I was SO JEALOUS of her. I wanted to lose weight so badly and here she was getting her wish. Soon she was thinner than me, while I'd always been the thin friend. I'm not going to lie, it was hard. I even broke down and cried.

But I love her so much. I was jealous but that didn't make me love her less or want her to fail. I was thrilled to see my beautiful friend doing well and getting healthy. She inspired me to do the same. It had nothing to do with her, my anger, jealousy and frustration. Only to do with me and my wished and needs.

Three years later I had rny myself and now we are both skinny bitches. You can envy a friend for their success and chose to take it as an inspiration. I remember she lost a bunch of friends after her surgery who we're angry for whatever reason. Some people are friends with overweight people to make themselves feel better!!! That's insane.

I truly love my friend and want the best for her. That's real friendship and real love. I admire her strength and while I do miss how squishy her hugs used to be, I am proud of how healthy and beautiful she now is!!! I'm so glad she paved the road for me to get healthy.