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Ok guys I am having my band removed and possible revision to rny depending on how my inside looks. I am super nervous. Dr put me on liquids stage 2 basically I am eating Soups and Protein Shakes ... Is it normal to be second guessing your decision? Having bad thoughts ?? Any support will help. Thanks

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I had my band removed and rny in September. I kept second guessing my decision to have the RNY. I really wanted the sleeve but decided I needed the malabsorption to keep me on track. The first week was rough but otherwise I haven't had any problems. I would do it again in a heartbeat. I am losing a bit slower than normal RNY patients but I'm very happy with my results.

Good luck

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Congrats, my surgery is Dec. 18th, and I'm right there with ya. It's also not helping that everyone I speak with about it are being serious Debbie Downers with the stories of "oh, I new a lady who had a horrible time with that", and "oh, I have heard about people dying from that". I'm tired of defending my well researched decision. On top of that, I'm also a Nurse, so I have a very candid knowledge of all aspects of this surgery, and aftercare. The most crapy thing I have been told, is that "it's a really selfish decision" to do this. I really wasn't having any second thoughts until recently, but I think I just need to get these people out of my head....lol. The liquid diet is bad enough all on it's own, without dealing with doubters.

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@costalchick don't even listen to the Debbie downers they have no idea what we go through on a daily basis. And people who even tell me "oh I heard this or oh I heard that " do to even know what it feels like to be overweight and have knee pain. That's why I pick and choose who I want to tell. I am super nervous having second thoughts but I spoke to a friend of my cousins who had the surgery 10 years ago and said it was the best thing she did and even though her family was supportive she said they made her write a goodbye letter to her son!! She's laughing about it now. She Said second guessing your decision is normal and she had the same thoughts but everything will turn our ok. So I am keeping positive and focused on my liquids until the next 6 days I want this day to come and pass quickly and be done and over with already. One thing I am nervous and anxious is if my dr will actually do the rny.. Since I have a band he needs to remove he has to see how much scar tissue I have. So he said if I have too much he will just remove my band and let my stomach heal for 6 months ... But I am keeping my fingers crossed because I want this done at once I don't want to have to go through all this nervousness again. Even though he doesn't sound too positive I know it is better to under promise than over promise so I am keeping positive. Good luck to you and keep me posted !!

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Hi Krisstep,

This is my first post on here but I'm glad that I read yours. I'm also having my RYGB on 12/17 and I am also struggling with doubts. I'm glad I'm not the only one and I kind of figured I wasn't. I had a talk with my 13 year old son this morning and he helped me see that it's definitely the right decision. I'm amazed at the talks I have with that boy. But anyway, I hope that you're able to get everything done at one time and you can get on the path that you want to be on.

I'll be right there with you on Wednesday! Good Luck!!

Mike

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I am Dec 17 also..... had a mental breakdown but know I have to do this to live a healthy full life....... We only can look up at this point. Lets do this

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Hi Mike, definitely you are not alone. I feeling all sorts of emotions right now. Mainly worried about my children, but I am doing this for them and to set good healthy examples for my children and to be able to do things with them that I can't do now. I know everything will turn out okay it's just that little voices that are bothering me and I have decided not to listen to them because I know what I am doing is for the better. Keep your head up and smile my friend we are all in this together. We are in it to win it!!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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