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I will be sleeved January 13th. I am a single mom. Kids are 13 and 9 so not worried about them. But was wondering if it's necessary to have an adult stay with me after and if so how long should I? Can't wait for surgery though!!!

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I'm not a single mom but I know my 13 yr old daughter was a tremendous help, if I had to I probably would have been just fine with her help. I guess it depends on The maturity of the child. If you do feel like it would be better to have an adult around I would say 2-3 days tops BUT that all depends on how your surgery goes....which will be wonderful I'm sure : )

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You'll get many different responses about this, but I had my surgery alone and recovered alone. There was a 16 year old in the house in the night, but I set things up before, so that i was able to completely care for myself. I didn't have ave any complications so it was no problem for me. I spent one night and came off pain meds the third day. I just made sure I didn't lift anything over 10lbs, my surgeon's instructions. Best.

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I was just like finediva.

I told my husband to leave after I came out of surgery and he picked me up the next day to take me home.

He was back at work immediately and I had 4 kids at home. 15, 6, 6 and 5.

Oldest watched the younger and I was fine on my own.

I also did not have complications. My gas pains were not bad at all and I was able to drink normally from my first allowed sip the day after surgery.

Same on meds. I used them in the hospital and a few days when I was home and that's it.

I've had other surgeries in the past without complications so I wasn't concerned about this one.

So ... I would say do you have any idea how your body might react to the surgery and how confident are you in your tolerance for pain and discomfort.

I think the kids will be a great help. You won't need much. Clear liquids for several days.

Best to you on this journey.

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Im a single mom of a 9 year old and I just told her I needed extra help for a few days because I would not be feeling very well. No questions asked and she helped me out so much.. I only needed someone with me to take to me the Hospital and Pick me up that was all.. Good Luck

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Im a single mom of a 9 year old and I just told her I needed extra help for a few days because I would not be feeling very well. No questions asked and she helped me out so much.. I only needed someone with me to take to me the Hospital and Pick me up that was all.. Good Luck

Good! That makes me feel good!!!

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@@crystalmaries, it all depends on your journey. I was in the hospital for 2 days. I started walking the first day of surgery. I was okay at home. I walked around the house every hour and I think that helped with my recovery. I walked about 5 - 10 minutes at a time. My husband did not take time off work. I took showers when he was home as a precaution. Inform your kids when you will take showers and ask them to check on you if you are not out by a certain time. That worked for me. Good luck on your journey!

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