This is something I've pondered over and over. I've been in so many conversations where people have said things like:

"She's getting fat"

"I'm so fat"

"My son and nephew brought home two girls and I was just hoping my son wasn't dating the fat girl"

"Don't eat that or you'll get fat"

I'm not saying I like being fat. But it certainly isn't the worse thing about me.

I hear you and have thought of this myself. The thing that crumbles that view (in my opinion) is the health issues that come as our age goes up. I've been overweight since I was about 30 and at that point I had no comorbities but as the years go on, I'm getting them slowly but surely. Thus far I have diabetes, high blood pressure, high Cholesterol and Atrial Fibrillation. That has all happened in the last 10 years and I'm 60. So yes it's kinda bad not only in an aesthetic view but in a health wise view.

Edited October 28, 201411 yr by Alfie

I will answer your picture with a picture.

I agree that fat is definitely not the worst thing you can be, but it's what has kept me despising myself for years. Gonna have to go see someone about that one day.

Although the JK Rowling quote always made me curious.... the only people she had fat in the whole series were people we were to consider to be bad and she always made sure to go into detail about their fatness in a bad way and about how piggy they were. Uncle Vernon and Dudley come instantly to mind. So her quote tells me one thing but her writing told me another.

Being fat in our society is up there with being a smoker. People who aren't think it's horrible, disgusting, unattractive, unhealthy,etc. In each case, the non-smoker or nonfat person usually has zero compassion for the difficulty that controlling/quitting entails. The thought process is usually that the fat person/smoker is to blame for being in the position to have to combat such a difficulty and often considered weak or lazy or even stupid for knowingly risking their health and in the case of smokers others as well.

I don't think that being fat is my worst quality either, but i can't deny that I hate it.

It was the worst thing in the world for my health, I can tell you that!

The next worst thing is the former smoker/ fat person who belittles & lectures others I think that's not only not helpful but a lot of damn nerve

to me, it's not the actual FAT that i hate, it's the weakness i feel exists by not being able to handle this one issue in my life. why am i capable of just about everything else i've ever attempted, and not at this? THAT's what gets me irked.

@@une nouvelle vie In reference to JK thats my exact point. While I am not judging her character based on her "characters" (cuz lets be honest, if we did that than Stephen King would be in trouble) it seems that eventhough they were fat, and described horribly, it was NOT the worst thing about them.

@@built2livenotexist Well said

I hear you and have thought of this myself. The thing that crumbles that view (in my opinion) is the health issues that come as our age goes up. I've been overweight since I was about 30 and at that point I had no comorbities but as the years go on, I'm getting them slowly but surely. Thus far I have diabetes, high blood pressure, high Cholesterol and Atrial Fibrillation. That has all happened in the last 10 years and I'm 60. So yes it's kinda bad not only in an aesthetic view but in a health wise view.

I didn't mean to ignore the co-morbidities, it just seems that those of normal weight who judge harshly are not coming from that standpoint. Much like you Im 29, overweight and healthy. But I'm a healthcare worker and I realize that illness is inevitable if I don't lose weight.