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So, I find out tonight on the local news that my lapband surgeon (very popular in our area and the best) just packed up and moved out of his office in the middle of the night, with NO notification to his patients or employees. He had his own office and performed surgeries at a local hospital who made a statement that he no longer was employed there.

WTH!!! This was my doctor, the guy I respected and trusted with my life!!!

I'm pissed, frustrated and right down disappointed!!! I mean I've been in his office every month for the last 16 months of my life. I do feel badly for him, all of his employees and his patients!!! What about our medical records where are they how do I get them to go somewhere else?

Now I have to find someone else to trust and for me that takes a lot!!

I'm doing good, maintaining, I just now feel lost.

Any suggestions and/or words of encouragement is appreciated!

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Does this help at all?

http://www.kshb.com/news/region-kansas/evicted-doctor-working-to-return-medical-records

I hope you get your records. Doctors do retire, but one would expect they would have another practice lined up to take over their patients. I hope it all works out for you, what a nightmare :( According to the TV station he has to provide the records to you within 30 days.

It looks like he was evicted and is planning a new location:

http://www.kshb.com/news/region-kansas/only-on-41-kansas-weight-loss-surgeon-evicted-from-office-patients-not-warned

Edited by labwalker

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Omg. What a crazy thing to happen. Please stay strong and make sure your insurance covers whomever you need to see next.

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Thx labwalker!!! Yeah its all over the news here. Im guessing he won't be practicing any yime soon, they reported his license is in inactive status.

I just remembered another Dr. That used to work with him and she's now operating in the hispital where the surgeries are done so I'm going to call her Monday. Its just sad all the way around!!

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So sorry you are going through this -- weird! And you'll probably never get to know the real story. We have such a litigious society and it could be anything -- just know you are solid. You will find your next doctor for after-care. Don't let this bring you down. But so frustrating! Sympathies!

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Thc Justwatchme!! It will all work out its just a huge let down. I really respect him, he gave me my life back and I just never would have expected this, BUT, life is full the the unexpected!! Thx lady!

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Thx Bandista!!! You ladies are truly amazing!! Thank you for the encouragement! I really appreciate it!!

I feel bad for everyone involved.

Edited by enjoythetime

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Wow, that is so weird. I would be totally blown away....if my doctor took off without warning. Whatever happened with him, I'd lay odds that it's been a long time coming. The fact that he inactivated his medical license? That's a pretty huge step!

Hang in there..... I'm sure you will find another bariatric doctor who is just as good...or better :-) So sorry you have to deal with this. Making the choice, and having WLS is a huge step. It's important to feel connected to the practice where you went through this life change. Geez.....talk about abandonment!!

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I am so glad that my Surgeon will Facebook or text me even if he's going out of town or whatever that way we know what's going on, he even text us if we haven't seen him in a while to check on us , I would ask if there was someone taking over or if they were sending our records to the person taking over just so I could get some kind of answers.

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That sux! Hope you find someone soon! Until the. Stay active on the board! That helps me

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